I’ve been seeing a married papa (a male supporter) around my age on a pay-per-meeting basis for 50,000 yen, but I like him, so I feel guilty accepting money from him.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. I’m considerate even toward women I pay an allowance to, but I’m even more considerate toward women I don’t pay an allowance to. Naturally. Otherwise, I’d have no value, haha.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well. Thank you for your question. > Become his girlfriend Just because you say you don’t need an allowance and stop accepting it doesn’t mean you’ll become his girlfriend. In many cases, you’ll simply end up as a friend with benefits—a convenient woman for him. If accepting an allowance makes you feel guilty, I think it would be a good idea to open a separate bank account and put all the allowance you receive into it. If you tell yourself you’ll leave it untouched and use it for him someday, you probably won’t feel so guilty. Just think of yourself as holding onto it for the time being. You could even tell yourself you’ll return it when you break up. (Though in reality, I think it would be fine to accept it as a parting payment.) For now, I think you should focus on how to become his girlfriend while continuing to accept the allowance. If a man truly falls for you, he may decide to “promote” you to girlfriend even while still giving you an allowance.

I’m in Seattle. Take the wife’s place. You’re more attractive anyway. I was watching a period drama recently and started thinking things were better back when men could have concubines. Christianity got it wrong.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. The cuter the woman is about her allowance (and the same goes for men—the higher the allowance, the more they give back), the more devoted, caring, and kind they tend to be, so I can’t bring myself to end things with them. In that sense, what you’re hoping for could very well lead to a long-lasting relationship. That said, as things progress in that direction, there’s no denying that she may stop being your favorite woman. Even so, you can push women rated 5 or higher into the background going forward. If this is a man you’re that strongly attracted to, I think it’s worth talking to him.