Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
> He agreed the first time when I told him the terms above, but the second time he refused. Do you think he no longer wants to see me?
I think he’ll wash his hands and shower if you ask him, so it’s fine to bring it up.
As for not using a condom, if you didn’t say anything the first time, he may have assumed you were a rare woman who was okay with unprotected sex. Because of that, he may not be happy if you ask him to use a condom next time. In the worst case, he may decide not to see you again.
But you have to protect yourself.
You need to decide for yourself whether the benefits of continuing to see this man without a condom outweigh the possibility of never seeing him again, or whether you should clearly bring up the condom issue even if it means the relationship ends.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
As someone who believes dating should be enjoyable for both men and women and mutually beneficial, I recommend always putting safety—including your health—first.
If your requests aren’t accepted and the relationship ends, please approach it with the resolve to accept that as a perfectly valid outcome.
Teramoto from the Tokyo staff team here.
Thank you for your question.
The first thing I want to tell you is that when you meet him for the second time, you should definitely bring it up, without simply going along with the mood of the moment.
Of course, some men may react obviously negatively or complain, but I think it would be much harder for you to keep putting up with it for as long as the relationship continues.
Also, this differs from person to person, so I can’t make a blanket statement, but these days, I feel that things don’t change all that much whether or not you have contraception available.
For example, a three-pack of Okamoto 0.01 costs around ¥1,000, so it isn’t exactly cheap, but bringing your own could be one way to reduce the risk. Personally, when a woman prepares contraception herself, I sometimes feel a little happy and think, “Wow, she’s really proactive about this kind of relationship.”
You may be thinking, “Why should I be the one to prepare it?” But when you consider that you can practice safer sex for around ¥300 per occasion and continue the relationship without undue stress, I don’t feel it’s an especially high price to pay. I hope you’ll consider giving it a try.
This may not have been exactly what you were asking about, but I hope it helps, even in some small way.
