Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
We once had a male member who could fairly be described as extremely overweight.
He received a lot of offers, but almost every woman sent negative feedback afterward. What made the situation unusual was that the comments were not about rule violations—they focused almost entirely on his appearance. Some said he lacked basic cleanliness, had dirty teeth, unkempt hair, and so on.
Normally, even if a woman finds a man’s appearance unacceptable, she doesn’t usually leave that kind of feedback. At most, we might hear something like, “I think it was a case of being misled about his dating type because he invited me but then couldn’t follow through.”
In other words, if she’s merely a little put off, she generally won’t bother writing feedback. She’ll just decline the invitation and move on.
Even if she doesn’t explicitly decline, there won’t be a second meeting or anything beyond that.
But in his case, women were actually contacting us specifically to comment on his physique, which made it an unusual situation.
Some even contacted us after the date saying they wanted to withdraw from the service. When we asked why, they said their first-ever date had been with him, they were so shocked that they didn’t feel they could continue.
We had to act quickly and start sharing information among the staff. We also had to tell women in advance that this was someone who had received this kind of feedback, so it was okay to decline.
So, as long as you have a basic level of cleanliness and grooming, I think you’ll be fine. However, your success rate when inviting someone to an adult relationship (intimate) after dinner may be lower.
For example, women with Dating Type C generally agree about 50% of the time. But for an average man with no negative feedback, the success rate may be around 70–80%. Even then, it’s not 100%.
If you lose enough weight to reach a normal range, pay attention to your clothing and overall appearance, choose a restaurant the woman won’t dislike, keep the conversation enjoyable, and offer an allowance she’s satisfied with, the success rate apparently gets close to 100%.
In your current situation, I’d estimate it at around 50%. Even so, one out of every two women may say yes, so you could still enjoy papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Also, for example, if you offered twice as much allowance as other men, you might be able to get close to 100%—unless your personality is unpleasant.
Using your allowance to make up for your body shape is one option.
Another good approach would be to work on your physique before getting started.
Ultimately, it’s up to each individual what they decide to do.
I’m Gaku, a male member.
As Taro and Marika mentioned, your appearance can differ quite a bit at the same weight depending on how much muscle you have. If you can bench press 1.5 times your body weight and squat about twice your body weight, you should look pretty impressive even at that weight.
Also, when you lose weight quickly, don’t you sometimes find that you no longer have clothes that fit your new body shape? If you wear the suit you had when you weighed 120 kg, the silhouette will probably look quite off. Losing another 10 kg, having a suit custom-made, and then making offers could make a big difference.
I’m Taro, a male member.
I looked up celebrities who are around 180 cm and 100 kg.
Chuck Wilson
The original muscleman
Hiromasa Taguchi
Hidehiko Yoshida
Hiroshi Tanahashi
Papaya Suzuki (174 cm, 108 kg)
Dave Okubo (180 cm, 110 kg)
If you’re on the more muscular side, you’re probably within the “pretty acceptable” range.
Or so I hear, lol.
You’re working really hard!
Generally, obesity is defined as a BMI of 25 or higher, but personally, I’d say BMI 23 is already “fat,” wouldn’t you? At 75 kg, you’d clear 23 as well.
How are you losing weight—diet, cardio, strength training, or what?
If you only focus on diet and cardio, you’ll lose muscle too, which lowers your metabolism and makes it easier to regain the weight. Before pouring money into a dating club, you’d be better off getting a personal trainer and working out. Though maybe you’re already doing that.
Among big, muscular guys, 180 cm and 100 kg is actually pretty common.
I like big, muscular men.
The important things are muscle mass and body-fat percentage.
Sorry for getting so technical—I’m into training as a hobby.
If you’re in Tokyo, let’s train and lose weight together! (lol)
I’ll be the one to approve your offers to girls. (Said with a superior attitude.) *smug*
If it were me, I’d keep working at it for a few more months, build up some confidence, and then start making offers.
Marika
