I needed money, but I can’t take on a side job like a regular part-time job, so I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Fortunately, I’ve been lucky with my papas (male supporters), and they’ve been supporting me.
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I have no complaints about them at all, and they treat me very well. However, every time we become intimate, I feel increasingly guilty toward my boyfriend.
I considered taking out a loan, but in the end, I feel like I’d probably have no choice but to do papa-katsu to repay it anyway...
For those of you who are married, how do you approach these relationships emotionally? Do you feel guilty toward your spouse? If so, how do you deal with those feelings?
I’d appreciate any advice.
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I don’t feel guilty. I suppose either there’s something wrong with my head, or the foundation of my marriage has completely collapsed.
To keep my mental balance between the constant stress I feel at work and the intense stress that occasionally comes from home, I need to have some fun right now.
For me, this kind of fun is essential. It lets me finally balance work and home life so I can get through my everyday routine. If I felt guilty, I wouldn’t be here.
As I was writing this, I thought, “Oh, I really am messed up. This kind of thinking sounds a bit like a serial killer’s,” lol.
I’m just glad it’s not a crime and is only womanizing. ^^;
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m married, but I don’t feel guilty toward my spouse. We each have different roles and expectations.
My relationships with women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are strictly within the framework of a dating club, and never go beyond that.
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Your spouse and boyfriend are the ones at fault for not giving you any money.
Don’t worry about it at all. Just hide it well—perfectly.
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Thank you for your question.
Have you considered ways to increase your income without feeling guilty—such as why you need the money, why you need more than you can earn from a regular part-time job, or whether you could switch part-time jobs—but found that there was no other option?
If so, desperate times call for desperate measures, and I don’t think you have time to feel guilty.
You should consider whether it would really be better to let that guilt consume you and end up taking on even more debt.
If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is truly your only option for getting the money you need right now, then until you’ve saved the necessary amount, your financial needs will outweigh your guilt.
In that case, I don’t think you need to feel guilty at this stage. It can be seen as something you need to do in order to survive.
Ultimately, though, the decision is yours.
Please think it through carefully so you won’t regret it.
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