When I hear from women about their dates, they often say they turned a man down because he was extremely rude. Why are there men who behave so disrespectfully? Wouldn’t it be a waste to pay money and then get rejected?

I’m in Seattle. There are always a certain number of idiots who mistake having money for being important. I might even be one of them. For the greater good, please point out exactly why and then turn them down. If it’s too awkward to say it in person, you can do it after you get home. If he’s smart, he might correct his behavior next time.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer this one as well. Thank you for your question. > Why are there men who behave rudely? Because they aren’t aware of it. They don’t think their attitude is rude in the slightest. Some men think, “I’m paying, so this is only natural,” or “I’m important.” They don’t realize that their behavior is disrespectful to the other person. Conversely, they may think, “Why isn’t she treating me like I’m special?” or “Who does she think I am?” That said, the limits of what people consider rude can vary considerably depending on the situation. For example, if a man gives a woman a very generous allowance—say, 100,000 or 200,000 yen—she may not consider a somewhat arrogant attitude to be rude. On the other hand, when someone offering an average or low allowance behaves rudely in the same way, they may exceed the other person’s tolerance, leading to, “I turned him down because he was far too disrespectful.” > Isn’t it a waste to pay and then get turned down? I think they may believe that the other person is at fault—that they did nothing wrong and the other person simply wasn’t prepared—or that the club is at fault for not properly confirming the type of arrangement they wanted. So I don’t think they’re likely to understand it anytime soon.

I’m Kazu, a male member. That man probably lacked tact, had a bad personality, or simply wasn’t in the right frame of mind. He likely didn’t mean to be rude, but his attitude came across that way to the woman. Then, when women turn him down, he becomes even more frustrated and trapped in a negative spiral.