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After that, I didn’t send a confirmation the day before. When I contacted her three hours before our meeting to let her know I had arrived, she replied right away. I thought, “Wow, was her response always this quick?” That said, it was a cancellation accompanied by an apology. She didn’t mention rescheduling either, so does that mean she had cut me off long ago?
As expected—or rather, I had honestly been 90% sure she wouldn’t show up anyway—so I’m choosing to see the fact that she replied at all as a positive. Back when I was furious about a last-minute cancellation, I read through the questions here and saw a comment from a woman who said that when a staff member in Tokyo sent her a confirmation email the day before, she took it as a sign that he was worried she might cancel at the last minute, and ended up canceling because of that. I thought, “So that kind of thing happens,” and deliberately held back from sending a confirmation the day before. But in the end, I was still left disappointed.
Instead of venting at her directly, I’ve decided to rant here in this Q&A section.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
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You must have been hit hard emotionally and financially, especially since you had already made various reservations, but I think it’s a good thing that you didn’t verbally abuse her.
Unfortunately, things didn’t work out this time, but I’m sure an even better woman will come along someday. I hope you’ll keep going on your journey to find the right woman.
That said, one lesson from this experience is that even if you don’t get a reply, it may be a good idea to send a confirmation message about three days beforehand, and another one the day before.
Some women may dislike that, but if a woman doesn’t even want you to confirm the plans, communication probably isn’t working well in the first place. In that sense, I’d actually be worried if you didn’t confirm.
Also, I think it’s fairly common for someone to forget a plan and make other arrangements.
I suspect she forgot about it this time and scheduled something else. (That’s probably why she apologized so quickly.)
I think you should stop pursuing her any further, since it could lead to even more trouble. However, confirming the plans the day before does seem important.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Thanks for sharing. I completely understand how you feel—I was also stood up and left on read the other day.
I think my column after next is going to be about my losing streak, so please enjoy it.
Let’s comfort and encourage each other as we keep fighting our way forward together.
No matter how battered we get, let’s keep our fighting stance and face forward as we do our best.
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