This is my first time asking a question. I’m a female member.
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Do you have sex every time you meet the person you’re seeing?
When I’m not in a good place mentally, it often affects my physical health as well.
When I’m asked to be intimate at times like that, I’m afraid I won’t be able to genuinely enjoy it, and that my feelings might show and disappoint him.
However, I assume male members offer an allowance on the understanding that there will be an adult relationship (intimate). If I turn that down, would they understandably feel uncomfortable or put off?
I would appreciate your advice.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
> If he asks for it at a time like that, I wouldn’t be able to genuinely enjoy myself either.
If you let him know by the day before the date, you could reschedule for another day. Or, on the day itself, he may suggest proceeding without an adult relationship (intimate).
If you weren’t able to tell him in advance, I’d probably notice at the hotel that you didn’t seem to be enjoying yourself and ask, “What’s wrong?” If you explained it then, he might say, “Okay, let’s just sleep together tonight.”
In the end, I think whether it’s accepted depends on how close you normally are and how much the man likes you.
Also, even if you can’t genuinely enjoy it and he notices how you feel, he may be touched by the fact that you still tried to accommodate him.
Rather than worrying about it, I think leaving it up to him could be one option.
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I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
I meet someone because I want to spend time with her, so whether we end up going to a hotel that day depends on how things go after we meet. But most of the time, we do end up at a hotel.
I may mention beforehand that it’ll be dinner only (no intimacy), but I never tell her in advance that we’ll be going to a hotel.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
In my case, the woman’s monthly allowance stays the same whether we’re intimate or not, and I also try to keep the number of days we meet consistent.
If either of us isn’t feeling well, we let each other know in advance. If something urgent comes up, I’ve handled it with a short meeting or a bank transfer.
If one of you isn’t feeling well, neither of you will enjoy yourselves, so it’s better to be honest and talk about it（笑）
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There are times when we don’t have sex because either the woman or I isn’t feeling well.
When a woman isn’t in the mood for sex, she may ask to reschedule or say, “You don’t need to give me the allowance—would it be okay if we just skip sex?” When I’m not feeling well, I keep the allowance the same and sometimes have her stay and sleep beside me instead.
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