I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m not the person you asked to answer, but it’s a good question, so I wanted to add a few thoughts.
> Being drugged and forced into something at a hotel—in other words, concerns about sexual crimes
I completely understand why you’re worried. However, speaking as a male member, when I really think about it, I wonder whether anyone would go as far as committing a sexual crime when there’s no need to.
This is just my personal opinion, but there are plenty of other options available. Considering the risk of committing a crime, as well as the time and money it would take to approach someone else, wouldn’t most men simply choose another woman?
I’ve even posted here before about getting out of the bath, putting my underwear and clothes back on, and being ready to leave. For the person on the receiving end, something like that just becomes a funny story.
It also makes me wonder whether there’s really any need to go that far to deceive a man at a dating club. Wouldn’t it be enough simply to refuse to go into the hotel?
If you ask whether it could never happen, there’s still always a possibility. But as Mr. Maezawa said, isn’t the fact that it doesn’t seem to have happened proof in itself?
I don’t think you need to worry—or misunderstand the situation—too much.
Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
Thank you for your question.
As far as I know, we haven’t received any reports like that so far.
However, we have received one report about a woman who went to the restroom during a meal at a hotel restaurant. When she was returning to her table, a staff member told her, “The man put something in your drink, so you probably shouldn’t drink it.”
Naturally, when the man was asked about it, he said, “Why would I ever do something like that?” The woman was also careful not to drink it, so we never found out the truth.
I have a feeling that if he had put something like a sleeping pill in it, there would have been a report afterward that she felt unwell. So perhaps he tried adding something like an aphrodisiac instead—but that’s only speculation.
Even if someone’s ID is being held, I think there are still people who would do such things, so it’s important to be careful.
That said, compared with apps and similar services, where IDs often aren’t properly verified or held, this is probably dozens of times safer.
