Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here. I’ll answer this one as well.
Thank you for your question.
> I’ve suddenly stopped receiving offers altogether.
That means you were receiving quite a few offers at first, right? If so, it’s possible that most of the men who were interested in making you an offer have already had a chance to see your profile.
From here on, you’ll probably have to wait for offers from newly registered men.
That’s why there tend to be many offers when you first join, followed by a gradual decline.
However, if you have new photos taken and change your profile pictures, men who weren’t quite motivated enough to make an offer based on your old photos may become interested.
So I think getting new photos taken would be your best option. Try contacting your branch and letting them know you’d like a new photo session.
They may turn you down if it hasn’t been six months yet, but if the branch isn’t too busy, they may still allow you to retake your photos before then.
Also, as momo mentioned, using a DSLR with a prime lens can make you look larger than photos taken with a smartphone.
That said, if you work on your poses and avoid close-up shots, DSLR photos can turn out beautifully. If you happen to get a staff member who’s good at photography, your photos could look completely different.
And when you’re being photographed, you should smile.
Ideally, you should give a natural smile. But if smiling on cue is difficult, even laughing at something small can help. More than how technically good the photo looks, a genuine laughing expression can make a man think, “She looks like she’d be fun to go on a date with.”
In any case, have them take lots of photos of you smiling.
Many women dislike smiling photos because they feel their faces look less polished, but what men are looking for isn’t simply photographic beauty. If you’re very attractive, photos with a composed, appearance-focused look can work well. Otherwise, photos that make you seem like you’d be fun to spend time with on a date are more likely to lead to offers.
A smile is important. A genuinely happy expression is a major plus.
Another possibility is that complaints from men may have been noted on your profile, which could also explain why you stopped receiving offers.
When you have your photos retaken, it would be a good idea to ask the staff about various things. They probably won’t give you specific details, since they can’t identify the men involved, but if they offer advice like, “You should do it this way,” it’s possible that a complaint was made about that particular issue.
Rather than thinking, “Why are they going this far?” try to consider carefully why they chose to bring it up.
I’m a male member named Paper Airplane. I once made an offer to a female university student who had sent me “You seem lovely,” only to find that her profile was pretty much nonsense (it said the exact opposite of reality…) and that she was actually all about the money and flashy things. I’ll be more careful with “You seem lovely” from now on…
> ② One of the men who made me an offer also advised me, “You don’t photograph very well… In the photos you have registered, you look kind of heavy, and your face looks larger than it is.”
If it bothers you, I think having your photos retaken could be a good idea. The staff are quite skilled photographers, and since you’ll probably feel less nervous the second time, you might be able to get some smiling photos.
Also, for your private photos, it’s better to have plenty of natural, everyday shots. I think it would be a good idea to include photos that show your face and expressions clearly, with a variety of poses and distances.
I don’t think transportation costs for long-distance travel are relevant.
And “You seem lovely” can be effective too. It helps men notice women they might otherwise have overlooked, so it creates new possibilities. I ended up making an offer to a woman who sent one to me, too. As I said at the beginning, I’ll be more careful next time, but even when you aren’t actively looking for someone new, receiving a “You seem lovely” naturally makes you curious about that person. In that sense, it can broaden your options.
Another thing I’ve noticed among women who ask why they aren’t receiving any offers is that their staff comments sometimes contain a single sentence—or even just one line—that makes you think, “If only they didn’t have that there, she’d get offers…” Apparently, those comments often never get deleted or changed, and based on what I’ve seen afterward, even after they try various things, the results usually aren’t good. In such cases, registering with a different dating club may be another option.
From my perspective, there are also comments that make me think, “Why would they write something like that??” It’s really unfortunate.
I’m Flag Maker, a relationship columnist.
I offer consultations on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), including listening to your concerns and complaints through in-person meetings, LINE, or phone calls. I can also advise you on how to increase the number of offers you receive. That said, I’m not especially confident when it comes to advice on increasing offers ^^;
If you contact me using the information below, I can review your profile and provide specific advice. Please feel free to reach out if you’re interested(^^)
【Papa-katsu Consultation Room: How to Apply】
・Please send an email to the address below including items ①–⑤.
[ onayami@aol.com ]
① Your Universe Club member number and club name
② The number of offers you have received so far
③ A brief overview of what you would like to discuss
④ Your preferred consultation method (remote or in person)
⑤ If you choose an in-person consultation, whether you would like a female member to be present
For details, please see the column below.
https://universe-club.jp/column/onayamisoudan
