This is Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office.
The way the club explains it to men is roughly as follows:
- Please give the woman ¥5,000–¥10,000 before the meal. (This is a token of appreciation referred to as transportation expenses.)
- If the relationship is going to become an adult relationship (intimate) after the meal, discuss the terms of the arrangement properly with her before proceeding.
- If you stay out until after the last train, please also cover the taxi fare.
So, when the male member is a gentleman—an exceptionally gentlemanly one—who properly follows these guidelines, and the allowance for the adult relationship is set at 50,000 yen, she would receive ¥55,000–¥60,000 in total: ¥5,000–¥10,000 plus ¥50,000.
However, it seems that some men don’t give the token of appreciation before the meal. With those men, if you agree on an allowance of 50,000 yen, that amount often already includes the meal-related payment, meaning you’ll receive only ¥50,000.
Even if you ask, “What about the transportation expenses?” they may simply respond, “Then the allowance is ¥40,000, and ¥10,000 is for transportation,” ending the discussion there.
Also, when a man is thinking that he might be able to pursue a long-term relationship with you, asking, “What about the transportation expenses?” can disappoint him. In cases like this, saying nothing may actually be the key to developing the relationship further.
That said, if the allowance is as low as ¥30,000—which I don’t think any man at Universe would offer—make sure to ask about transportation expenses before you travel to meet him. If he says that the ¥30,000 includes transportation as well, I think it’s perfectly fine to decline and go home.
One of the advantages of a dating club is that you have the right to say no. If you’re not comfortable with the terms, it’s only natural not to accept them, and doing so won’t put you at a disadvantage.
I’m Flag Maker, a papa-katsu columnist.
If you negotiated in advance that the terms would be dinner ① + adult relationship (intimate) ⑤, for a total of ⑥, then it would be ⑥. But without prior negotiation, I think most men would probably only offer ⑤.
Try discussing it with him in advance.
Update: I misunderstood and thought you meant from the second meeting onward. For the first meeting, it’s usually 5,000–10,000 yen for transportation, and if things progress to an adult relationship (intimate) from the first meeting, the allowance is paid separately.
