I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I don’t know what kind of person this man is, but even a certain famous actress always enjoys quite a bit of alcohol before going to a man’s room.
At night, perhaps it’s understandable, but when someone consumes a large amount of alcohol during the day, I start to think:
“He must be forcing himself to put up with me.”
“He’s timid and needs alcohol to get through it.”
That makes me feel hesitant as well.
But women like that are often in financial difficulty, and they frequently contact me with possible dates to meet.
It really breaks my heart.
I’m not sure if this counts as advice, but perhaps you could get through it with a convincing lie, such as saying you went to the doctor because you developed inflammation in your intimate area.
I’m Adventure Merchant, a columnist.
Sorry, I couldn’t help laughing a little at the beginning—but does he really show up at your meeting spot with a drink in hand too?!
Wow… he must really love his alcohol.
As for my answer…
Before telling him, “I’d like you to cut back on the drinking,” I think it would be better to explain the fact that “the sex lasts so long that it’s putting a strain on my body” and discuss it with him from that perspective.
The real issue here is that the penetration lasts so long that it becomes painful.
Even if he does cut back on drinking, there’s no guarantee that it will actually shorten the time he spends inside you.
I drink too, but that doesn’t necessarily make it difficult for me to climax, so I suppose it really depends on the person.
Just imagine.
You gather the courage to ask him, “Could you please drink less?” He kindly accepts that and says, “Okay, I will…”—only for you to end up thinking, “But it still lasts just as long!”
If you’re going to work up the courage to say something, you should address the real issue.
Something like:
“It’s physically difficult for me because the penetration lasts so long. I’d really like to find a solution—do you have any ideas? Ideally, I’d like to continue our relationship for a long time, but I won’t be able to do that if my body can’t keep up. I’d really appreciate it if we could think of a solution together.”
That might even prompt him to say something like, “Maybe the alcohol is causing it. I could try cutting back a little…”
On the other hand, when you bring it up, he might respond with something like, “What are you complaining about? You’re getting paid, so just put up with it!”
If he reacts that way, it’s clear that he isn’t treating you with any consideration at all. In that case, please end the relationship.
So, gather your courage and talk to him about it first!!
You’ve got this! (^_^)/
