https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/2944

I’m the one who asked the follow-up question. Thank you so much for all your helpful responses. I had a feeling, but everyone’s opinions have helped me calmly reconsider how I should approach this relationship going forward. > To Flag Maker-san ・I don’t want to have one generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter). I don’t want to be tied down. ・I don’t make monthly arrangements. I don’t accept a large amount of money from any one person. That description was spot-on. She’s a very level-headed woman who clearly has an aura of someone determined never to be influenced by anyone, keeping her future in mind. Although she receives many offers, she seems to be quite firm about intimate relationships as well. The idea that she has her own definite stance and rules—not based on common sense or logic—really resonated with me. ・Ask her about her papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) stance, acknowledge and empathize with it, and praise her by telling her she’s doing well. If possible, I’d like to try talking to her this way. She may cut me off now that she knows I had been keeping it from her, though. While accepting that I probably can’t win her heart anyway, I hope I can continue treating her more kindly and affectionately than ever under the current terms of the arrangement. I feel much more at ease and relieved. Sorry this wasn’t really a question. Thank you very much.