I haven’t been able to see the man I’ve been seeing for a while due to personal circumstances. I’m not currently seeing anyone else, but he told me, “Don’t meet anyone else on Universe while we can’t see each other,” which leaves me conflicted. There’s no guarantee of when we’ll next meet, either… By the way, the allowance is pay-per-meeting.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. If you’re still receiving an allowance even when you can’t meet, then I think it would be best to accommodate his wishes. However, since this is pay-per-meeting, I assume you receive nothing during periods when you can’t meet, so accommodating his wishes would only be painful for you. With that in mind, I think you should resume your activities, even if it means being prepared for things to end with him. In fact, if you can’t meet now, there’s a chance the relationship may simply fade out anyway. Before that, though, you should ask him whether he’ll continue giving you an allowance while you’re unable to meet. If he says he can’t pay you when you haven’t met, I think you can simply apply that same logic to your situation. When you resume your activities, I recommend consulting the club directly and asking them to hide only that particular man from your profile. You might also want to ask whether you can change your club name, just to be safe. That should allow you to resume your activities without him finding out. But even if he does find out, since you’re not receiving any allowance, I think it’s only natural for you to do so.

I’m a male member of UC and also a member of the new salon. 〇 Since he said, “Don’t see anyone else in the Universe while we can’t meet,” I think the best option would be to register with another dating club—not Universe. 〇 To add to that, I think it depends on the main reason you haven’t been seeing anyone other than him on an ongoing basis. ・If you haven’t needed to see anyone else because his financial support has been sufficient: → You’ve only been receiving a pay-per-meeting allowance so far, and since you don’t know whether he’ll be able to support you consistently again after this period of not seeing each other, I think you should actively look for new partners through Universe Club without worrying about it. You absolutely do not need to agree to his request not to see anyone else. ・If you have feelings or romantic interest in him beyond the financial support: → Make sure to confirm, “I won’t see anyone else, so you won’t see any other women either, right?” I believe an equal relationship is essential for continuing a romantic relationship comfortably. It isn’t appropriate for one person to unilaterally say, “Don’t see anyone else.” 〇 Other I think it would be better to tell him something along the lines of: “I’ll do as you ask and refrain from seeing other men, but what are you planning to do about the financial support I need? I can’t manage indefinitely without any support when we don’t even have our next meeting scheduled. If we’re going to be unable to meet for a long time, then naturally I’ll start looking for new men as well.”

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ > “Don’t see anyone else on Universe while we can’t meet.” Apparently, quite a few men say things like that, but I think you should ignore him and look for someone new—and better. At least among the people I know, male members who say things like that aren’t considered desirable partners. Why not give it another try? And even if he contacts you again, don’t respond. He’s probably paying another woman and repeating the same behavior he showed you with her by now. ↑ That’s a reasonable way to look at it.