I’m Rula, a UC male member and a member of the new salon.
I’ve made quite a few offers to women who live outside my area as well. Rather than something casual or one-off, my thinking was more like this:
I already have a favorite woman whom I see about four times a month. Naturally, that takes a considerable allowance, so even if I found another favorite woman where I live, it would be financially difficult to see her very often.
Also, if I told her, “I really like you, but I can only see you once a month,” she might realize, “Oh, he must be seeing other women too, so I’m second choice—or even lower.”
In that case, it feels better to see a woman who lives farther away and say, “I really like you, but I’m sorry we can’t meet very often because you’re so far away. I’ll do my best to make time to see you once a month!”
That way, it doesn’t feel as much like she’s second choice, and the relationship can work nicely.
That was the idea behind seeing women from outside my area.
Hope this helps.
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
I feel the same as Mac-san.
Please make lots of offers.
Women also have the right to say no, so they can always choose to turn down an offer if they feel it isn’t right.
That said, I’m sure there are also women who receive no offers at all, and some may simply want to meet someone and experience papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), even under somewhat limited terms.
When I went to Okinawa, I had some free time and made an offer that same day. I had a great time hearing about the area and local life. The other person was also happy to keep things as a transactional relationship, so we didn’t even exchange contact information.
Offers like that do come up from time to time.
