I’m Saito, a column writer♪
To begin with, it seems like the man isn’t treating you with much consideration.
On top of that, I get the feeling he’s taking advantage of you.
I’ve never heard of any of my male members offering 30,000 yen for a group encounter.
I’m BB7, a male member.
There can’t be two cases that are exactly the same. Naturally, everyone is acting from their own position, so it’s only to be expected that the views of the men, women, and staff may differ.
After hearing various opinions, I believe each person should decide for themselves how they want to judge the situation.
Choosing to put up with something because you don’t want a man to dislike you is your own free choice. Likewise, deciding to ask for an allowance even if he might dislike you—and actually communicating that in words—is also your own free choice.
Deciding to leave because you believe Universe and its male members are taking advantage of women is your own free choice. Deciding not to leave even if you feel that way is also your own free choice. Whether you believe they are taking advantage of women or not, choosing to leave, continue, or join is entirely up to you.
I believe a dating club should, apart from its basic rules, leave matters to the judgment and free will of the people involved. Expecting the club to decide every little detail of members’ private relationships is endless—and beside the point, isn’t it?
Whether male or female, anyone who cannot make decisions based on their own will and judgment, then accept the consequences as their own responsibility, probably isn’t suited to using a dating club, which is about adult free relationships.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here.
> Which is it? Please get your story straight.
You’re registered with the club, correct? If so, rather than asking us to “get our story straight,” shouldn’t you simply follow what the club has told you to do?
I understand if you’re saying that the staff are giving different answers within the club and that they should be consistent. However, as far as I can tell, I’m the only one who has answered so far, so there seems to be only one opinion here.
That said, I do think individual staff members may have different views. This falls under the realm of free romance, after all.
This isn’t a place where we provide the club’s official position. So, going forward, another staff member may give a different opinion.
Even in that case, the basic approach is to consider the various opinions and use whichever one you find most helpful as a reference.
In hindsight, there may be a clear “right answer,” but in the moment, it’s often impossible to know what the right choice is. Usually, it’s only later that you realize whether what you did was the right decision or a mistake.
Please think things through carefully and act in a way you won’t regret.
Universe helps people meet each other. Up until the meal, you’re expected to follow Universe’s rules, but after that, it’s free romance, so how the two of you choose to pursue the relationship is up to you.
If you believe it’s beneficial to be patient, then be patient. If you think it would be better to discuss things clearly in advance, then have an honest conversation.
Which option will be more beneficial? Rather than stopping yourself from thinking, you should always keep considering what the best course of action is until the very end. That’s the basic approach in any situation.
Leaving the decision to someone else will only increase the chances that you’ll regret it.
