Which do you think is more sinful: “finishing inside” or an affair?

In My 30s, New Member There seem to be two main ways of looking at this: one is that it isn’t a sin as long as no one gets hurt, while the other is that the act itself is sinful, even if no one is harmed. Personally, I think it’s just barely acceptable as long as no one gets hurt. Needless to say, the moment someone does get hurt, it becomes wrong. As for whether the act itself is sinful, I feel that’s ultimately something other people decide for themselves. So in the end, I suppose it is a sinful act. I’ve been through affairs where both the other person and I ended up getting hurt, and I found the whole thing exhausting and unpleasant. That’s why I’m looking for connections through a dating club. That said, meeting someone through a club doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be able to build the kind of relationship you’re hoping for. You still have to be extremely careful not to hurt your partner or anyone around you. Even when it’s through a club, I think it’s important to recognize that you’re still engaging in something morally questionable, and to approach it with humility—not just focus on the allowance. People have such different views on topics like this, which makes these discussions interesting, haha.

I’m Saito, the columnist♪ Hi, Mac. Both are sinful in their own ways, and regardless of how serious the sin is, I think it comes down to whether you’re prepared to bear the consequences. I don’t really feel like I’m doing something good. Basically, if the other person doesn’t want it, none of it can work anyway. I think whether the relationship continues is a good measure. As humans, we often fail to realize that we’re making someone else unhappy. I’ll keep learning as everyone points things out to me, too.

I’m Rula, a male UC member and a member of the new salon. Mack, this was an interesting question, so I wanted to share my thoughts. Unprotected sex with ejaculation inside VS. an affair that simply drags on without marriage or financial support That comparison felt a little off to me. If you’re going to compare them, I think it would be more natural to frame it like this: Unprotected sex that simply continues without any intention of marriage, financial support, or even provisions for emergencies VS. An affair that simply drags on without marriage or financial support And if both unprotected sex and an affair are based on the other person’s consent, then it’s a matter of agreement between the people involved. In that case, I don’t think it’s possible to say which is more morally wrong. Some women may say, “I’d hate an affair more,” while others may say, “Unprotected sex is absolutely out of the question.” So, in this case, perhaps the most important point is whether the man is prepared and willing to offer marriage or financial support. If he is prepared to do so and the woman agrees, then at least between the people involved, I don’t think it can be considered wrong. And trying to discuss, in general terms, which is more morally wrong when the people directly involved don’t consider it wrong seems rather pointless to me.