Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
I’m not entirely sure what you mean by the terms of the monthly arrangement, but if you want to meet two or three times a month, it would usually be calculated as three meetings, so I think the arrangement would be ¥300,000 per month.
If you’re thinking the allowance should be reduced because you’re covering her rent, that seems a little off.
Covering the rent could be taken to mean that she can use the place whenever she wants, so I imagine some women would only find it acceptable if the arrangement included something like rent (¥100,000 plus ¥50,000 for utilities) + allowance (¥300,000) + extras (things she wants, perhaps).
Considering all that, based on your question, you don’t seem to have that much financial room, so the burden sounds too great. Rather than factoring in the rent, you might be better off offering terms such as:
¥300,000 per month for three meetings under a monthly arrangement.
If that’s too difficult, perhaps ¥200,000 per month for two meetings?
I’m a Ruura member at UC and the new salon.
I’m pretty well-versed in monthly arrangements（笑), so let me share my thoughts.
Generally speaking, the benefits for a woman of entering into a monthly arrangement are:
1. She can reliably secure a lump sum every month.
2. She only has to see men she actually likes, which reduces the physical and emotional burden.
From what you’ve written, I think the first point is lacking.
You currently meet about twice a month, paying 60,000 to 100,000 yen each time depending on your mood, right? So that would be a maximum of 200,000 yen per month—or is the minimum 120,000 yen?
Honestly, I feel the budget is too low for a monthly arrangement. For example, you’d probably need to set the pay-per-meeting allowance at 100,000 yen, guaranteeing 200,000 yen a month, and on top of that occasionally buy her something.
As for the second point—which I think is more important—I understand that you really like this woman. But how much does she actually like you?
Even though money is involved, this is still a relationship between people. Just because you like her very much doesn’t mean she feels the same way. In fact, in the context of a dating club, it’s probably more common for the feelings not to be mutual.
Judging from the frequency of your messages, I get the impression that she doesn’t consider you a particular favorite.
In this situation, covering her rent or taking on similar expenses would probably feel burdensome to her. At worst, she may even find it creepy.
So I think the solution is:
1. Increase the amount first and secure a fixed monthly payment.
2. Rather than focusing on whether you like her, become the kind of man she likes.
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
If you consistently offer a ¥100,000 pay-per-meeting allowance and arrange a chauffeured car home, all your problems will be solved.
Women don’t like allowance amounts that vary like the roll of a die.
