Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
We don’t keep specific statistics, so I can’t say for sure, but based on what I’ve heard from both men and women, most men give ¥10,000, so there are very few who give only ¥5,000.
It seems that men give ¥5,000 when they weren’t interested in the woman. So if you’re offered ¥5,000, I think it’s best to decline any invitations afterward.
That said, I’ve also heard that when the allowance is paid upfront, women can’t make that judgment and end up feeling stuck. So perhaps men offering ¥5,000 have gone extinct by now—but if you do meet one, you’ll know what kind of person he is even if you continue seeing him, which should make it easier to decide.
By the way, during dinner only (no intimacy), it’s against the rules for a woman to ask a man for more than the prescribed amount. However, some men voluntarily give ¥20,000 or ¥30,000. There’s nothing wrong with accepting what a man offers, so that’s fine.
In fact, if a man does that, he’s probably someone worth continuing to see. I doubt you’d dislike a man like that, and by spending time with him, you may hear all kinds of interesting stories and gain a lot that will enrich your life.
I’m Rula, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon.
No matter how much—or how little—I liked the woman, I always gave her 1 for transportation expenses. Conversely, I’ve never given 2 just because I liked someone extremely well.
If the date wasn’t enjoyable, I may feel like I lost out on the 1, but this is a dating club, after all. I try to make sure that money never leaves a bad aftertaste, and that when ending things, both sides can walk away feeling clear and satisfied.
For example, if she asks for 10: I may agree, thinking, “Well, it’s just this once, so I suppose it’s fine as part of the experience…” But if I’m considering continuing to see her, I’ll discuss and work out the terms—such as how many times a month we’d meet, whether dinner-only days would be okay, and how much she’s looking for per month.
