Thank you for your continued support. I’m a female member.

I’m Saito, a columnist ♪ Personally, I don’t mind being ignored, but if possible, I’d appreciate it if you could at least say something like: “Sorry, our schedules don’t line up.” If the woman doesn’t follow up by asking, “Are there any other dates available?” I tend to assume she isn’t very interested in me. Come to think of it, I tried to recall whether any women had ignored me… There have been some, but they seemed to be viewed as somewhat problematic by the club as well. So I thought that, yes, women who simply ignore people might receive lower evaluations from the club.

I’m BB7, a male member. If I don’t hear anything from the woman in particular, I assume we simply weren’t a good match and leave it at that. However, when I message asking, “Would you like to meet again?” I’d appreciate it if you didn’t just ignore me. In my case, if the answer is no, I’d much rather you say so clearly and promptly. I can usually take silence as a sign that she isn’t interested, but then I start wondering whether she’s feeling unwell, her phone has broken, or my email didn’t get through. I end up overthinking things and waiting two or three days for a reply, which makes me feel like that valuable time has been wasted. So far, only two women have never replied to my messages, and all I’m left thinking is that they’re people who can’t show consideration for others. Being ignored—or receiving a late reply that ultimately turns out to be a rejection—is far more unpleasant than simply being turned down right away. Even if you’re still undecided, I can’t help wishing you’d at least say, “I’m still thinking about it.”

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here. > If a male member later gives a poor review because the woman didn’t contact him after the second meeting, will that also affect the feedback on the woman? Or will the staff take the circumstances into consideration to some extent? If a man brings it up, before deciding whether to show any consideration, we may contact the woman and ask something like, “Is everything okay?” Whether it gets reflected in the feedback depends on the details, so it’s hard to say. I understand wanting to leave things vague, but it would be better to send the other person how you genuinely feel via LINE or something similar, and then bring things to an end. If the man was persistent afterward, the staff would sympathize with the woman and see him as a terrible guy. (If the man was more verbally persuasive, the staff might be taken in by him, so that doesn’t always happen.) When things are left vague, I can understand the woman’s feelings, but I also find myself thinking, “I wish she had at least contacted him.” It does lower our impression of her somewhat.