Tips
Sep 6, 2019 09:47
I’m a Black male member.
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Regarding subsequent dates with a woman who has explicitly told the club she wishes to withdraw because she wants to pursue a relationship with a specific person
I have read the related questions and answers.
For reference, I have experienced this twice from the “specific person” side and once from the “unmotivated date” side.
◆【Wishes to withdraw】or【Wishes to take a leave】
Based on my experience, even if a man is told that a woman has expressed her wish to【withdraw】, I suspect that she has probably actually expressed her wish to【take a leave】.
◆Does the club inform the man in advance when a woman wishes to【take a leave】?
At least, I was not informed.
During the date, I asked about the situation and told her, “I don’t know that person, but I hope you’re able to have a good relationship.”
Immediately after I sent her a thank-you message following the date, the woman in question disappeared from the site.
My registered branch is the Nagoya branch. I have already raised the matter with them directly and received an explanation, although the excuse was impossible to understand. Therefore, I do not plan to contact Mr. Maezawa.
Question
According to President Maezawa’s answer, the club’s policy is to inform the man in advance if the woman wishes to withdraw. Is the same policy followed when she wishes to take a leave?
I also find it somewhat absurd that male members are apparently expected to write something like “Please do not introduce me to women who wish to withdraw” in their profiles.
In addition, as many of the male respondents commented, my true preference is to avoid dates with women who are not approaching the relationship positively, whether they wish to take a leave or not.
A few people answered that the situation should simply be turned around, but since there are apparently people with that kind of outlook, I feel even more strongly about avoiding such dates.
I apologize for troubling you while you are busy, but I would appreciate your response.