I read the question and answer about the proposed meeting dates.

Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu will answer as well. > Why is this effective? If a man says he can meet anytime, but then claims the dates don’t work, I think you can safely assume he’s turning you down. If none of his dates work for anyone, there’s no reason for him to remain a member. He should either withdraw or take a leave of absence. Even if he doesn’t do so himself, the staff will suggest that he take a break. If the dates only don’t work for certain women… If he still doesn’t understand this and wants to make an offer, I can’t help but think he may be the kind of man who simply can’t make things work with women, even when he goes on dates with them. > This fact isn’t mentioned at all in the setting request section. Why not? Because it isn’t a rule. If you select “I’ll adjust to the woman’s schedule,” then you should actually adjust to her schedule. If you can’t do that, enter your own available dates when making the offer. That’s all there is to it, and it’s so obvious that there’s no need to make it an official rule. The fact that this question has come up means some men are apparently using the system based on a misunderstanding. Let me explain. ① The man submits an offer saying he’ll adjust to the woman’s schedule. ② Thinking he’s considerate, the woman gives him just one date that works for her. (She does this because the man said he would adjust to any date.) ③ She assumes the date is basically confirmed. (He said he would adjust, so she expects things to go according to her preference.) ④ However, the man tells her that date is difficult and asks her to suggest another one. The woman becomes confused. What did he mean by saying he would adjust to her schedule? Still, she wants to meet him, so she suggests one more date. ⑤ The man says that date doesn’t work either and asks her to suggest another date—this time, all of her available dates rather than just one. ⑥ She concludes that this man probably won’t be able to make any of her dates work and loses the motivation to reply. ⑦ Since her reply is delayed, the staff remind her. ⑧ Tired of being pressured by the staff, she starts thinking that perhaps she should withdraw if this is how badly she’s going to be treated. The staff are burdened, the woman loses interest, and the man can’t get his date. No one benefits. And the man doesn’t think he did anything wrong. He blames the woman, or the staff. But the real cause is that the man lied. That’s the point. > Even if a woman specifies a particular date and time, such as the 10th at 7 p.m., I imagine very few male members will be free at exactly that time. Then those men simply shouldn’t select “I’ll adjust to the woman’s schedule.” Why would they claim they’ll adjust, even if that means lying? If they can’t adjust, they only need to enter their own available dates honestly. > It seems like an extremely strict system that can only be used by men who are available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Taken to the extreme, perhaps only those men can honestly say they’ll adjust to the woman’s schedule. (That said, I’ve never seen a woman specify the middle of the night, so the time would presumably be within reasonable limits.) I don’t think it’s right to say you’ll adjust when you actually can’t.