There’s a male member I’ve been seeing for a long time. He told me, “I want us to stay together forever,” and since I love him too, I tell him, “Let’s stay together.” We see each other several times a week.
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However, this man has a love hotel membership card. I happened to see it once.
I want to think about it as positively as possible, so I tell myself that maybe he uses adult entertainment services, or perhaps he’s seeing someone else, but I try not to dwell on it.
Do men see sexual desires and adult entertainment as separate from the woman they love, even if they’re in a relationship with her?
If he only wanted to satisfy his sexual needs, I wouldn’t mind at all. But if he’s seeing other women, I’d be extremely hurt (>_<)
How should I think about a situation like this? I love him very much and want to stay together forever, but whenever I happen to remember that card, I feel depressed.
I’d really appreciate any advice.
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He’s probably meeting lots of other women.
He’s been playing around so much that he’s become numb to it, and has let his guard down to the point of risking a woman seeing his love hotel membership card.
That’s how I would interpret it.
This is only my personal opinion.
(It’s the least stressful way to look at it.)
If it had been a city hotel membership card, she probably wouldn’t have thought anything of it.
What a shame.
(A comment directed at that man.)
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here, answering as well.
> However, this man has a membership card for a love hotel. I happened to see it once.
I’m not quite sure what you mean. Are you saying he had a membership card for a love hotel that the two of you had never been to together?
There are several possibilities, so it would help to have a little more information.
① If it’s a love hotel you’ve been to together, there’s nothing strange about him having the membership card.
② If you always stay at city hotels when dating this man:
He may have used love hotels all the time in the past, but switched to city hotels because he thought you might not like them. In that case, he may simply still have the membership card. If you’re okay with it, he might even be wondering whether a love hotel would be fine from now on.
③ He may just still have it because he thought it would be wasteful to throw away a card from a membership he got years ago.
Those are a few possibilities.
I think the best thing would be to ask him directly, something like, “I happened to see a membership card for a love hotel the other day. Do you go there often?”
If you’re going to ask him directly, you should believe what he says 100%. Even if it sounds like a lie, it’s important to take him at his word.
If inconsistencies start to appear later, you can worry about it then. If he’s telling the truth, there won’t be any inconsistencies, so you should be able to continue seeing him with peace of mind.
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