I’m a black-tier male member in a regional area.

I considered consulting the local branch, but I’d like to ask here first. About the recently popular-sounding requests: “I want you to quit the club!” or “I want you to focus on just one person.” Some answers mentioned that this might be “a violation of the club’s rules” or that “the penalties should be strengthened,” which made me curious, so I have a question. ・What I was told when joining the club, and the club rules I was told, “Please refrain from urging a woman to leave the club after the first meeting (the first date arranged through the club).” At the time, I accepted this as understandable, since from the club’s perspective, they invest considerable effort and expense in recruiting women. 【Question 1】 Does “the first meeting” mean only the first meeting, or does it also apply to dates from the second meeting onward? If it also applies to dates after the first, my understanding is that, officially, the club does not get involved. Is that incorrect? Of course, since the club has clearly stated that it does not approve, I do think urging a woman to leave even after the second meeting would violate an unwritten gentleman’s agreement—in other words, it would be ungentlemanly. However, if both people are happy with it, isn’t that ultimately all that matters? If the woman doesn’t want to, she can simply refuse. She can also report it to the club, and I assume it would be within the club’s normal scope of action to recognize and deal with someone who behaves in such an “ungentlemanly” manner. ・Regarding wanting someone to focus on just one person I suppose it might sound impressive to say, as some respondents have, “Women who register with a club like this are…” but personally, I can’t agree with that way of thinking. I think it’s fine for people to have different views, but it feels more fitting to me to aim for “both men and women leaving the club on good terms” (even if they might come back later…). Before there is a certain level of trust, being told, “I want you to focus on just one person,” feels creepy. Of course, providing a sufficient allowance should go without saying. From a business perspective, I imagine the club would consider men and women who enjoy meeting (and having sex with) various people simultaneously to be ideal members. 【Question 2】 Ultimately, is it the club’s understanding that men and women who want a stable relationship with one particular person are not eligible to remain members? This became rather long, but I would appreciate your answers.