Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
> He doesn’t really believe that I’ve withdrawn from the club and says he’s going to confirm it with the club.
Actually, having him confirm it with the club seems fine, since that would establish whether you really withdrew. The issue is that I believe we generally don’t disclose whether someone has withdrawn or not.
However, if someone asks, “The girl who was in my favorites until recently has disappeared,” there’s a possibility that the staff might respond, “Oh, she withdrew.” In that case, it could be a problem.
Of course, if they simply say, “If she disappeared, doesn’t that mean she withdrew?” then there’s no issue.
But if the exchange is:
“Ms. XX disappeared.”
“She withdrew.”
then that seems problematic.
That said, in this case, if the man wants to know whether she withdrew, and the woman also wants the club to confirm that she did, then I think it would be possible to tell him clearly, “Yes, she has withdrawn.”
(The woman herself is asking us to disclose it.)
Without her consent, however, our basic response would be:
“We’re unable to tell you whether she has withdrawn.”
From the man’s perspective, that could lead him to assume she hasn’t withdrawn and that we’re answering that way for a reason.
> If a male member asks the club how many offers a female member received, how many men she actually met, or when she withdrew, would you ever provide that kind of information about a woman who has withdrawn?
We do not provide information about women who have withdrawn.
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
Whether you’re still a member or have already left, your information—including the details—will never be shared with the person you’re dating, so there’s no need to worry.
I hope you build a happy, lasting relationship with this man.
