Dear Papa-katsu gentleman,

Thank you for your thoughtful response. The incident I wrote about happened several months ago, and I have already resolved it by speaking with the staff. (The staff contacted the gentleman, and he apparently reflected on his behavior. Since we hadn’t exchanged contact information during the date, I contacted him, and he said he would give me my allowance the next time we met. However, I didn’t contact him because I never wanted to see him again. I can’t trust someone who made a bad impression at the very first meeting, which is the most important one.) What I wanted to ask was whether there are quite a few men who make an offer intending from the start to meet for free, rather than things simply becoming free by chance as they grow closer. Are men who refuse to negotiate the allowance common or unusual? Could there be something about me causing this? Is the woman expected to bring up the allowance negotiation? If so, since it’s difficult for women to raise the subject, could there be a rule requiring the man to bring it up instead? If you had read my question carefully, I thought you would have understood that it wasn’t a complaint about one particular man (if it were, there would have been no need to post it in the question box), but a question about men who aim to meet for free as a whole, and about negotiating the allowance… I was a little discouraged. Was my writing just unclear? Still, your sincere response really helped me. Thank you very much.