I understand that asking a woman you’ve made an offer to quit the service is not okay, but it’s perfectly acceptable to ask her not to meet other men, right?

I’m Rula, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon. The club’s rules say that asking a woman to leave the club is not allowed, so you won’t do that. But you might think saying, “Don’t see other men” is okay because it doesn’t include the word “leave.” I don’t think that’s the right way to look at it. I understand how you feel, though. It can’t feel good to think that your favorite woman is dating other men too… But in my experience, the men who do well at dating clubs are generally the ones who are emotionally secure. Very few women will hear “Don’t see other men” and think, “Wow! I’m so happy!! You care about me that much? Thank you!” Most women are more likely to think something along the lines of—putting it rather bluntly: “Whoa, he’s getting serious. What a hassle.” “What’s with this guy? He’s acting like a student in love even though he’s an older man.” “Has this guy only ever focused on work? His relationship skills are seriously lacking.” I think it’s better to assume that’s how your words may come across. Even without telling her not to see other men, if the time she spends with you is genuinely comfortable and enjoyable for her (and the allowance is generous enough☆), she’ll naturally stop seeing other men. Become so appealing in your own right that she’s the one saying, “I’m not going to see any other men anymore!!”(^^)/

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ I’m the type who doesn’t really care, so women tend to let their guard down and talk openly around me. In fact, it seems they often have stories of that sort. Rather than thinking, “I don’t want her seeing other men,” you should understand that you can’t control how she spends her other time. She may well be moving her hips on top of another man right now. Having that mindset will help you grow.

I’m Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu, and I’ll answer this as well. It feels a little contradictory. For example, if you say, “Don’t see other men,” can you really also say, “You don’t have to quit the club”? The more I think about it, the answer seems to be no. In that case, it feels like: “Don’t see other men” ≒ “I want you to quit the club” If you mean that she doesn’t have to quit the club and can accept offers and go on dates, but shouldn’t see other men outside the club, then I suppose that would be fine—but that’s probably not what you mean, right?