I’m Rura, a UC male member and a member of the new salon.
I enjoy things differently from Nonta, and I currently don’t have any pay-per-meeting relationships.
I see three women about four times a month each. All three are on monthly arrangements, and I give them that month’s allowance at the beginning of the month. In general, the amount is roughly equivalent to six adult relationship (intimate) meetings.
It seems that each woman has chosen to focus exclusively on me, so I feel we’re able to build genuinely deep relationships with a strong emotional connection.
When we first started seeing each other, we set separate terms for dinner and for what came afterward. Since switching to a monthly arrangement, though, we don’t stick rigidly to those terms. Some months, we only have an adult relationship (intimate) once, while in other months, our schedules happen to line up and we meet more often than planned.
Dating clubs can be enjoyed in many different ways depending on how you use them, so I think it’s best to find an arrangement that suits your own values and preferences.
Now, since the question also touched on the topic of “money and feelings,” which often comes up in relationships like these, I’d like to say a little about that as well.
I completely understand why the questioner feels that, the longer a mutually beneficial relationship continues and the more emotionally invested they become—and the more money they spend—they may be forced to face the reality that the other person is ultimately only interested in money, simply coming to see them for the cash. Wouldn’t that gradually leave them feeling empty and cause their feelings to fade?
I went through a period when I struggled with this myself.
However, it’s only natural that a woman’s motivation includes money. What matters is determining whether money is her only motivation.
Continuing a relationship with someone who thinks, “As long as I can earn that amount, it doesn’t have to be you,” only left me feeling emotionally drained.
But after meeting women who think, “First and foremost, I want it to be you. And being supported by someone like you makes me incredibly happy,” my days became much more enjoyable.
When a woman asks for a higher allowance, there’s a big difference between simply saying, “If I’m going to do this anyway, I might as well earn more”—meaning money is her only motivation—and saying, “I’ve chosen you as the only person I want to be supported by and see. I still need at least another ¥〇〇 for my goals, and I don’t want to look for another man to provide that support.”
Of course, it can be even more painful if you end up being deceived...(^-^;
In the end, I feel that rather than overthinking things, what matters is how much trust you can intuitively build with the other person.
Don’t think. Feel!
I hope you have a wonderful encounter.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this.
Are people really saying they’ll pay any amount?
Even if someone wants to pay more, they can’t give what they don’t have. I don’t think anyone can pay endlessly, so I have to question whether such people even exist.
It’s not that simple.
Other people are other people, and you are you. Being an adult means pursuing a relationship within limits you’re comfortable with.
If you felt you couldn’t accept the terms, then I think it simply means you didn’t like that person enough.
