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Jul 11, 2019 18:13
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Aizawa will share their thoughts as well.
The distinguished gentleman who gave such a detailed response has already covered this thoroughly, so I may not have much left to add, but I’d like to share my perspective as a staff member.
Dating-type misrepresentation can be difficult to handle, but our position is that lying about what was reported to the club means we can’t build a relationship of trust, and therefore can’t confidently make introductions. We will make sure to address the matter properly.
That said, determining whether she really lied can be difficult. For example:
“She isn’t a good match for me.”
“But I can’t exactly say that.”
“I’ll say, ‘Things haven’t been going well with everyone!’”
A gentleman may take that statement at face value and accuse her of fraud. In some cases, women have been pressed so hard by a gentleman asking, “Why isn’t it working out?!” that they ended up lying and saying, “Actually, I’m type A.”
Of course, even in situations like the above, we do tell the woman that she shouldn’t lie, but we can’t be overly forceful about it.
It can be difficult to determine what really happened, but if we receive the same feedback from multiple gentlemen, it becomes more credible. If it’s only one gentleman saying it, we may also wonder whether the relationship simply didn’t work out.
That said, when a gentleman tells us, “This is fraud!” we certainly don’t just respond, “That’s none of our business.” With his permission, we will also check with the woman involved.