Are there any people with severe germophobia who still do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I’m honestly a germaphobe.
I don’t mind a big age gap (I like older men).
I just can’t stand things like bad breath.
How do you all handle it when you’re not compatible with someone?
I’d really appreciate any tips.
(I’m thinking about registering with a dating club soon.)
I think everyone puts up with bad breath to some extent.
And when the chemistry isn’t great, I think everyone just bears with it.
The allowance is probably what makes up for where each person draws the line and what they’re willing to compromise on.
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Humans are living beings too, so it’s pretty rare for anyone to be completely scentless.
Most people have some kind of natural smell. Women’s scent matters to me as well, so I’d like them to take good care of themselves. But being overly particular about cleanliness just makes things difficult, so I think it’s a delicate balance.
Besides, if you’re meeting someone for sex, you’re essentially exchanging mucous membrane cells, right? lol
If kissing or oral is off-limits, there won’t be a next time—it’s an immediate goodbye.
I once made an offer to a 19-year-old who said everything was off-limits except touching her there and penetration. It killed the mood, so we called it a day right then and there lol. I couldn’t perform, so we didn’t go any further, but I still paid her allowance in full as promised lol.
I’m not willing to pay for sex that I can’t enjoy.
In the end, the women who remain as Fuu’s monthly arrangements are kind, devoted, and sexy. I’m simply grateful to them for doing so much for me!
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Bad breath and things like that are unpleasant regardless of whether it’s a man or woman. If I point it out clearly and they don’t fix it, I end the relationship.
Once you’re middle-aged or older, everyone’s basically carrying germs. I guess you just have to put up with it depending on the amount of money they offer.
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It’s a question of how far you’re willing to tolerate things that feel unfamiliar in exchange for an allowance.
People with a strong aversion to germs tend to be very particular about their own standards of “cleanliness,” so would it mean holding your breath and toughing it out for a generous allowance?
Generally speaking, I think it would be difficult.
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I’m not sure exactly what you mean by “severe germophobia,” but I know someone who won’t touch train straps or handrails, won’t touch a desk if someone has put their hands on it, and has to disinfect the area with alcohol whenever someone coughs nearby.
If that’s considered ordinary germophobia, does “severe” mean they can’t even leave the house?
Either way, even that level of germophobia would probably make papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) difficult.
That said, if you simply can’t tolerate things like bad breath, I think that’s different from germophobia—it probably also depends on how sensitive you are to smells.
> How does everyone deal with someone they’re not compatible with?
Normally, I don’t think people continue seeing them.
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You may not need to worry about it that much.
It probably wouldn’t work with someone you’re incompatible with, but if you hit it off, and he likes older women, I don’t see it being a problem.
Unlike sex work, you shouldn’t do anything you can’t tolerate—and being overly accommodating can sometimes backfire. You may meet a man you can openly communicate with, or someone compatible who accepts you just as you are.
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I don’t think being unable to tolerate bad breath means you have severe germophobia.
I assume you simply avoid dating people you’re not compatible with.
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This kind of activity might be difficult for people who are particularly germ-conscious.
I think many men involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are more mindful of preventing bad breath than men their age in general. I floss and brush my teeth every day, clean my tongue, and even my periodontal pockets are at a healthy level for a man when I go for regular checkups.
When I meet women, I take precautions like eating Frisk, but you can’t beat aging, so I imagine there’s probably still some odor if someone gets really close.
If you think about how men are making these almost tear-inducing efforts, doesn’t it make them a little easier to forgive? No?
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I’m not sure whether you’d call it severe, but I did meet one girl like that within the past six months—a highly educated college student.
No kissing
No oral sex
No cunnilingus
No love hotels
No private rooms at home
Apa Hotel was okay (← still a mystery)
She was cute, so we went on three dates. We verbally agreed that our next date would be at an Apa Hotel, then said goodbye. The next day, I messaged her to end the arrangement.
She was a popular girl on the “black” list. She wanted an allowance of 100,000 yen per meeting. I wonder how she’s doing.
If you’re someone who won’t kiss or do oral sex, it might be difficult to maintain an arrangement with a papa, no matter how incredibly cute you are.
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