I have a similar question about allowances, so I’d like to ask. I’m a female member in the Platinum class (I’m sure of this based on the profiles of the men who have sent me offers). The men I’ve dated so far, as well as those who have sent me offers, have almost always given me 5 as an allowance. I’m seeing multiple men, but with the man I recently started seeing, I left the amount up to him and he gave me 4 instead. I should really be grateful, but I can’t help comparing him to the others. Why 4 instead of 5—a somewhat in-between amount…
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He seems to like me, and we’re still seeing each other, but my motivation has inevitably dropped. I gently turned down an overnight trip, and I’m not in the mood for a second round either.
This may sound badly worded, but there really is a difference between 5 and 4. If either of us is even slightly dissatisfied, I don’t think the relationship will last long. It made me wonder how men perceive the difference between 4 and 5.
For reference, I do go on overnight trips with the men who give me 5. Is my attitude—that I’m okay with going without protection or having a second round if they ask—too improper? (笑) This may be a rather tasteless question, but I can’t ask him directly. I’d appreciate it if someone could answer.
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Um… rather than wondering, “Why, just because it’s 4…?” I think it’s better to simply think, “There are all kinds of people out there.”
If it brings your mood down, you can just choose not to see him. Whether it’s a second round or staying overnight, I think it’s important to stick firmly to your own boundaries and preferences.
This is beside the point, but yesterday I had a second round for the first time—or almost the first time. LOL
I didn’t know what to do, so I paid an additional 50% when I took my second shower.
It was through a different dating club, but I’ve started seeing someone new. I haven’t started a new relationship lately, so I’m kind of excited about it…
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Maezawa here.
I don’t think that man sees much difference between 4 and 5.
Since you left it up to him and he tried 4 without receiving any complaints, he probably assumed that 4 was what you wanted. So if you’re dissatisfied, I think you should tell him how you feel the next time you meet.
However, if he doesn’t want to pay any more, that may be the point at which things end between you. Think carefully about whether you’d be okay with that, and if you are, then I think you should bring it up.
> Why 4, such an awkward number, instead of 5…?
Japanese people generally prefer odd numbers—3, 5, 7, and so on.
That said, when it comes to an allowance, I don’t think 4 is particularly awkward. Going straight from 3 to 5 is quite a big jump, so 4 seems to have its own place.
That said, whether 4 feels awkward depends on the person. Personally, I don’t like the number 4.
You could try mentioning several times in conversation how much you dislike the number 4, subtly emphasizing just how much you hate it. He might catch on, though that does feel a little too unnatural.
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