I’m dating a man I met through the club, but I recently found out that he has other women as well (>_<). We’ve been together for quite a long time, stay in touch every day, and have had a loving relationship like a real couple.
Even after finding out, I continue treating him with a smile as usual, as though nothing happened.
But I feel like all these pent-up emotions are going to explode someday. I love him very much and have no intention of breaking up with him, but I’m shocked and can’t help feeling depressed.
In a situation like this, how can I take my mind off it? Would dating another man help me feel a little better?
To all the club veterans, could you please give me some advice? Thank you.
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> Would seeing another man help take my mind off things, even a little?
Yes—let’s look for an even better man.
It’s a free-love situation, after all.
Honestly, it’s pretty rare for someone to seriously focus on just one person.
Most men in this world have a reasonable amount of ambition, so I think seeing people in parallel is perfectly natural.
I often hear about men becoming too deeply involved with one person, though…
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Maezawa here as well.
> In a situation like this, how can I take my mind off things? Would dating other men help me feel a little better?
First, I think you should carefully consider whether this is something you can simply get over, or whether it would be better to end things with this man.
If you’re thinking of taking your mind off it first and then deciding what to do, I recommend trying to date other men as well.
The fact that he’s dating multiple women likely means he isn’t looking for a serious relationship. If you tell someone like that that you want to be his only partner, there’s a chance the relationship will end.
So, if you want to stay together for a long time, it may be best for you to date other men too and ease your feelings for any one particular man.
Seeing someone for just a day or two to take your mind off things will only leave you feeling drained, so I think you should find someone you can see over the long term.
Once you have around three men like that, you may be able to maintain a comfortable balance.
On the other hand, if you’ve decided to end things with your current partner, then dating multiple men probably isn’t right for you. In that case, I recommend looking for a man who will focus only on you.
Among the male members, there are also men who want to date just one woman. I’m sure you’ll have opportunities to meet someone like that, so I think you should go on dates with different people until you find him.
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