I often see critical posts saying that more men and women who are unsuitable for dating clubs are joining, but

I’m Saito, a columnist ♪ Women say, “There are more cheap men.” Men say, “There are more women who aren’t worth the cost.” That’s about the size of it, I think. Women who are having genuinely good experiences usually don’t post about them or talk about them publicly. They’d be worried about losing what they have. I know plenty of men and women who are having wonderful experiences.

Maezawa here—I’ll answer as well. > If both people’s needs and compatibility align, and they’re both satisfied with it, isn’t it simply fine for them to have whatever kind of relationship they want? I agree. However, in reality, situations do arise where both parties aren’t in agreement. When that happens, the discussion becomes: isn’t someone who does such things without obtaining the other person’s consent unsuitable for a dating club? Dating clubs are positioned differently from adult entertainment venues—they’re places where people are meant to enjoy the entire date. But occasionally, some men try to use them like adult entertainment, resulting in matches that don’t align with what the woman is looking for. Then women may think, “If that’s what you want, why not go to an adult entertainment venue? Why are you at a dating club?”—meaning the man is unsuitable for the club. And men may think, “Why does the club admit women who aren’t prepared for this?”—meaning the woman is unsuitable for the club. It’s difficult because everyone has their own motives and expectations. What clubs ask of male members as a condition of membership is that they be gentlemen. Gentlemanly men don’t receive negative feedback from women.