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Sorry—I couldn’t help laughing because it felt so real.
There are plenty of stories like that. I’ve had my share too.
We should definitely have a roundtable discussion.
It sounds like it would be an absolutely hilarious time.
Right now, a platinum-level woman is negotiating a pay-per-meeting allowance of 50 with me.
The Universe staff and I are watching over it warmly. LOL
I’m sure there must be some special secret behind it. LOL
Maezawa here.
> I feel there must be some meaning behind it when someone offers a high allowance.
If you believe that everything has some meaning, then I suppose it does—but it’s difficult to say.
Apparently, there are occasionally men who ask a woman they’ve offered a large allowance to, “What exactly makes you worth that much? Explain your value to me.”
But looking at it the other way around, you could also say that he offered a large amount because the man’s own value is low.
What I mean is this:
When it comes to a man around her own age whom a woman genuinely likes, it’s generally common for her to enter into an adult relationship (intimate) without receiving an allowance.
At a dating club, however, if the man is outside the age range she has in mind, she normally wouldn’t even go on a date with him, let alone enter into an adult relationship (intimate).
But if a man outside that range approaches her, she has to consider how much that difference matters. She evaluates him as a whole and thinks about what it would take for her to feel comfortable accepting his offer if he wants a relationship with her. That may be why she asks for a certain allowance.
In that case, even if there’s a significant age gap, the allowance might not be so high if she finds him attractive and develops feelings for him. And if the age gap is relatively small—for example, around ten years—the terms of the allowance may be lower accordingly.
Men probably think about how much they can afford to pay a woman, but women may also be considering how much they would be willing to accept from each particular man.
If a man’s value, from the woman’s perspective, is low, it puts her in a position where her own value is relatively higher.
Something like that, perhaps?
That said, I feel there are probably many other ways of looking at it, and every woman is different, so it’s difficult to reach a clear answer just by thinking it through.
For example, she may be offering a high amount based on a concept similar to baksheesh.
Baksheesh means almsgiving—the idea that “those who are wealthy should give to the poor.”
In that case, since it’s based on a religious belief, it may not have much meaning in this context.
There are also cases where a high allowance is necessary simply for the woman to feel comfortable with the situation, regardless of anything about the man.
In that case, it has nothing to do with her value.
It’s simply a condition she needs in order to reconcile herself to her own feelings.
