Even with a woman I’ve been seeing for a while, would you end things after one disappointing date?

This is Saito, the column writer ♪ After reading your question, I thought, “I can relate to that too…” To be honest, I often end things for the same reasons. Since I have quite a bit of experience, I sometimes make judgments based on what someone says when they’re drunk or on some casual gesture. (My standards for making that call may be pretty superficial, so I imagine women might find it quite frustrating.) Part of it is that there are plenty of other people out there, but I choose to see it positively: it also makes me less likely to get involved with the wrong woman. Just think of it as cutting your losses early.

Maezawa here—I’ll answer too. Some people have certain deal-breakers. For example, if a man doesn’t like women who smoke, he may decide he can’t see her anymore just because she asks, “Is it okay if I smoke?” after their intimate time. Then the club may receive a complaint saying, “I knew she smoked, but her profile said she could refrain during dates. Was that a lie?” The woman may simply have been holding back and asked because she happened to want a cigarette at that moment. But for the man, it may have been something he absolutely couldn’t compromise on. Everyone has different preferences and deal-breakers, so I think it’s best to look for the woman you feel the most compatible with.