I want to join the Zashiki-warashi Club!!

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪ > P.S. I feel like less than 1% of women are truly lucky charms. Maybe more like 0.1%? After reading Maezawa-san’s answer, I found it interesting and started doing the math first thing in the morning. lol I haven’t met 1,000 people yet, but I’ve met three truly lucky women over the past five years, so I guess that’s a pretty high percentage… (Though I suppose compatibility plays a role too.) I’ll keep working on developing my ability to sense these things! lol I’d like to join the Zashiki-warashi club… I feel like if you consistently spent 30 million yen a year, you might start sensing something, but I don’t feel anything. lol (Maezawa-san, please hold a Zashiki-warashi party for the male club members confirmed to have spent around that much. lol) I’ll stop here before the flow gets weird. As for your answer, I think it would be best to meet properly next time, talk about the things that have been bothering you, and then part on good terms.

Maezawa here. My first thought was: Is he emotionally unstable? The fact that he decides on a date, but then doesn’t want to go as it gets closer, makes me think he must be emotionally unstable. I’d always assumed this was something only women did, so I was a little surprised to learn that there are men like this too. Rather than worrying about how to cancel, he should go since he made the promise. And if he feels like his emotional instability might flare up, he should avoid making plans for the next date. I think it would be best to approach the relationship that way. > She doesn’t send a thank-you message until the following evening at the earliest. That’s a little late, but if she does send one, I don’t see a problem. There are plenty of women who don’t send any message at all, and I often hear men say that women like that aren’t worth dealing with. > It takes three rotations of the Earth before she even reads my message. That’s normal. It happens because you haven’t become close enough yet. > As the date (or payday?) gets closer, she sends a message to confirm. That’s normal too. I think this level of communication is perfectly fine for a relationship to continue long-term. Of course, once you become closer, she’ll start messaging you more and more. But if you want to hear from her more often, you should think of ways to build intimacy. Bringing a gift could be a good idea, or taking her somewhere to eat that she would enjoy. You could even deliberately end the date after dinner only, with no intimacy. You never know what will work, but you should stop thinking that she ought to do certain things just because you’re paying. Try thinking of her as a romantic partner, and put a little more effort into figuring out what would make her like you. That said, I imagine many men would be troubled if she became genuinely serious about them, so perhaps continuing the relationship as it is now is actually a good balance. P.S. I don’t think even 1% of women are truly “a good-luck woman.” Maybe 0.1% at most?