I’m watching him go as far as destroying my husband’s family.

When I was younger, I saw my wife as both a sex partner and a romantic partner. But everyone gets older. Men have an animalistic desire to spread their genes among as many females as possible. Instinctively, that desire fades after about three years, but we forcibly restrain it through human ethics, morality, and the institution of marriage under the law. I’ve lived with my wife longer than I lived with my parents, so we’re family and won’t be separating. But as I’ve discussed in my columns and in interviews for Kotoko Hinata’s reportage, my wife was actually the one who first outsourced sex, and that’s what led me to get involved in this. As long as both people are satisfied, whether you call it an affair or a lover is their own business. I wish people around them would stop meddling already. Some people leave their wives and remarry their lovers, while others remain in an affair. As for whether that really happens—lol—there are probably plenty of real-life examples here. That’s the kind of place this is, after all. lol

In this day and age, I don’t think there are any circumstances that make divorce impossible. I believe people can choose to build a life with the person they truly want to be with. Also, marriage is different from romantic love, so even couples who marry the person they love most end up divorcing quite often. I’m still on good terms with both my ex-wife, whom I divorced, and my former fiancée, whose engagement I called off. I realized that married life wasn’t going to work for us, but if we’re simply in a relationship, we don’t have to live together, so there’s no problem at all. Even while being madly in love with a mistress, someone may still have a much closer relationship with the wife they’re able to remain married to. Or perhaps their marriage has already broken down, but they’ve simply had enough of the idea of being married to another woman…