I’m a big fan of the wonderful answers here, especially those from the male members. I always enjoy reading them. Since I can’t ask this anywhere else, I’d like to ask here.

I’m Saito♪, a columnist. I love it when writers get complimented and then everyone goes all out with their answers♪ Everyone’s answering anyway, but if someone calls me a fan, of course I’ll answer. Haha. Anyway, to cut to the chase: break things off with him as soon as possible. He’s a seriously troubled male member whom you can’t control. This man is working toward his goal of getting what he wants for free. If that were all, it would still be the better-case scenario. Break it off smoothly before this turns into an incident. If he’s already been secretly looking through your wallet or checking into your address and workplace, things could get troublesome. He’s actually perfect for practicing how to break things off. ↑ That was kind of a bleak answer. What happened to me?

Maezawa here with an answer as well. It sounds like you’re getting pretty tired of the situation, so this may be the right time to call it quits. But if I try to think of some possible solutions: - “I want to see you again soon.” Suggest meeting once a month. It sounds like twice a month would also be acceptable, but start by proposing once a month. If that really doesn’t work, you can decide whether to end things or meet twice a month. - “There isn’t a day when I don’t think about you.” I assume those are his feelings, but if he messages you every day, tell him, “I’ll only reply the day before we meet.” Make it clear from the start. - “I’m worried that you don’t really like me.” There’s not much you can say to that besides, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” - “I’m not being stingy, but I want to explore a different kind of relationship—not one where we’re connected by a pay-per-meeting allowance of 30,000 yen.” I think you should tell him that you can’t consider any other arrangement. - “Do you actually want to see me, or do you only want to see me because you want money?” Tell him that money isn’t everything, but it is important. - “We only go to a hotel every time without even having a meal, but I’m not just interested in you physically.” Tell him that you want to include a meal every time from now on. - “I don’t have much cash on me, so I’ll give you a smaller allowance this time.” Try meeting less often so this doesn’t happen. - “Money is tight right now, so I’d like to see you next time without an allowance.” Tell him, “In that case, I’d like to end things.” - “I want to go on an overnight date.” It’s fine if you’re okay with it, but since you mentioned it, I’m guessing you don’t want to. I think neither of you should force yourselves, so tell him that staying overnight would be difficult. - “I want to do it a third time.” Again, since you mentioned it, I’m guessing you don’t want to. Tell him, “I’m already sore down there.” Something along those lines should work. Since you’ve been seeing each other for quite a while, I think he’s started making various requests. You should feel free to express your own opinions too. If it would be difficult to say things like the above, I think the best place to start is by reducing how often you meet. You could say that you already have plans that day and gradually manage it down to twice a month. It would also be a good idea to clearly set the allowance. If possible, arrange a monthly payment—such as twice a month—and have it paid at the beginning of the month. If things end because your terms don’t match, I don’t think he’ll necessarily be hurt. And if you can reach a compromise, you may be able to continue having a good relationship. Women who make an effort to respect and support the man they’re seeing are wonderful. But if you sacrifice yourself too much, I think it will eventually become painful for you. I think it’s best to continue the relationship only within the limits of what you’re comfortable with.