Maybe because I’m inexperienced, I’ve never reached ecstasy. My papas (male supporters) try really hard and use all kinds of techniques to get me there, but sometimes they even use huge vibrators⁉︎, which only leaves my private area sore and painful.

Let’s leave the giant vibrator out of it. It’s sad to see someone endure pain just to go through with it. She should either say no or ask to extend the schedule. There may be quite a few women who pretend to climax. Personally, even if a woman can’t climax, I’d continue seeing her if she puts in the effort. As long as she doesn’t shy away from things like hugging, kissing, oral sex, 69, or standing rear-entry, and is willing to participate enthusiastically—even if she’s a little shy—I think that should be fine.

If you’re continuing with someone you can’t tell about your pain or communicate your desires to, I wouldn’t call that a relationship. There won’t be any deepening of the connection or added enjoyment. It’ll simply become more like a service or a job—and compared with doing that kind of work, it isn’t even very efficient. Things probably won’t improve for you like this. From the post alone, it’s hard to tell whether only the man or both of you are finding it uninteresting. In your case, I think it will be difficult for you to truly blossom unless you gradually deepen and develop things with someone you can build a meaningful connection with. If the only compensation you receive is an allowance, I think it will be difficult for your heart to feel fulfilled, too.

It’s unusual for a woman in her twenties to experience ecstasy. Judging from your question, the man sounds less “inexperienced” than simply unsuitable—as if he isn’t even seriously trying to help you reach climax. I don’t think being with a skilled partner automatically means you’ll be able to climax, but if you keep seeing men who are bad at sex—or who have sex like they’re masturbating without paying attention to the woman—it may only make it harder for you. You’ve grouped all female members together, but some women pretend to climax, some don’t pretend, some climax normally, and some can climax whenever they want. Everyone is different. And although we casually refer to it all as “climaxing,” there are different types and depths of female orgasms. What to do if the pain continues depends on how severe it is, the circumstances, and the individual. Personally, I’ve heard several women say they stopped seeing a man because he was terrible in bed. I don’t think you should keep having painful sex. If you do that too often, sex itself may come to mean nothing but that to you.