I’ll answer as Maezawa as well.
> Aren’t girls who are okay with unprotected sex with ejaculation inside basically “professionals”?
I don’t think it’s right to make sweeping assumptions.
When menstrual pain is severe enough to interfere with daily life, it’s called dysmenorrhea. If someone has severe abdominal or lower-back pain that requires painkillers or prevents them from working, it would be fair to describe it that way.
It’s also possible that the person herself—and the women around her—simply happened not to know anyone with symptoms that severe, so she may not be taking the pill.
The cause of functional dysmenorrhea—ordinary menstrual pain without conditions such as fibroids or endometriosis—is the effect of progesterone, a hormone secreted by the ovaries after ovulation.
So, conversely, suppressing progesterone secretion should help prevent menstrual pain. In other words, temporarily stopping ovulation is the solution. The pill is a very simple, effective, and safe way to do that.
These days, the pill is best known as a contraceptive because it stops ovulation, but it was originally developed as a treatment for conditions like this.
So calling people who take it as a treatment “professionals” would be rather strange. We should also consider that ordinary women may take it too.
> There’s a possibility that she’s having unprotected sex with multiple men. Would men still be happy about having sex that way?
If you put it that way, it becomes: “There’s a possibility that she’s having sex with multiple men, so would men still be happy to have sex with her?”
Even among men using dating clubs, some prefer to date women in relationship type B. I think that’s because they believe such women are less likely to be intimate with other men, and they would be happy if they could date someone like that.
Realistically, if you’ve been intimate with someone, there’s a possibility she’s intimate with other people too—indeed, that’s probably usually the case. But people don’t think about it. They consciously stop themselves from dwelling on it.
That’s because it more often leads to a happier relationship.
The same applies to going bare. By thinking that you’re the only one who gets that special treatment, you may be able to enjoy a wonderful time together.
Of course, I do consider the other possibilities. But if she doesn’t say anything herself, that’s fine.
> I’d like to avoid women who want to go bare. Is there a way to find that out beforehand and turn them down?
Dating clubs arrange meetings up through a meal, so unlike escort services, they can’t ask beforehand whether someone prohibits going bare or whether she wants to do it.
After the meal, it’s a matter of personal choice, so the two of you have to discuss and decide what kind of relationship you’ll have.
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Sorry for all the fuss.
If you’re still worried about whether to go without protection or use one, I think it’s best to be honest with your partner.
(Work through any concerns before going to the room. It’s your own precious body, after all.)
It’s not that going without protection is necessarily better—there are risks involved.
People often bring up terms like “pro” or “genuine love” on this Q&A site, but I don’t think we need to attach too much meaning to the act itself.
As men, being willing to let ourselves be fooled is part of being an adult.
Even if it’s just an act, I think it’s enough to treat women who are considerate toward us with respect and courtesy.
If we don’t make our own judgments and move on, it can interfere with everyday life.
Aizawa here.
It seems that only a very small number of women take the pill... As a man, I didn’t really understand that aspect, and my wife took it because of irregular periods, so I assumed it was more common than it actually is...
By the way, what kind of person does “professional” refer to? Someone who works in the adult entertainment industry?
Sorry for my limited knowledge, but I thought using condoms was standard in that industry... I can understand it being possible at high-end establishments, but I assumed they were safe because they were tested regularly...
So, conversely, I feel that a girl who readily agrees to go without protection may be more likely to be an inexperienced amateur who hasn’t thought things through carefully.
That said, wouldn’t men feel uneasy about going without protection right away? Personally, I would be worried, and if something went wrong, there’s a possibility it could cause a great deal of hardship...
At the club, we don’t know whether members are actually dating or what kind of relationship they have!! If we were asking male members, “Are you into going bare, or do you prefer using protection?” wouldn’t that make us an adult entertainment establishment?
The club only matches members with one another, so we don’t know whether they go to a hotel or not. I think it would be difficult to know that in advance.
However, since it’s your first time meeting, if things do develop in that direction and you end up going together, I believe using protection is a matter of etiquette, manners, and morals...
I think men are the only ones who are happy about going bare from the very beginning, so I’d be glad if you would consider both your partner and your own health.
