This is embarrassing to admit, but I still don’t know what female pleasure is supposed to feel like.

With a former boyfriend, he would say, “You’re so tight and narrow down there, ○○-chan (my name). I’m going to come right away—I won’t last long.” Whenever I thought I was finally starting to feel something, he would finish almost immediately. I was disappointed every time. The man I’m currently seeing through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—just one person—also says, “You’re really tight and narrow down there, ○○-chan, so I end up coming right away… I’m sorry. In return, I can help you finish with my hand, or I’ll buy a vibrator next time.” But I want us to climax together when we’re intimate. Is that impossible? Also, I’m worried that using hands or a vibrator might hurt and don’t really want to try. What is it actually like?