Would about three dinners be reasonable for getting to know a man—talking over a meal and seeing whether you’re compatible, share a good vibe, and might be able to pursue an adult relationship (intimate) in the future?

Your system sounds more like a matchmaking agency: you have the first meeting, then report the outcome to the agency. An escort club is different. They only arrange things up to the first meeting; after that, you negotiate or communicate directly on your own. I recommend deciding after just one dinner. If they keep dodging you for a second meeting, you’ll probably hardly ever see them again.

> Would around three dinner dates be reasonable for getting a feel for someone? If the man is genuinely that interested in her, I think three, four, or however many dates is fine—as long as she’s comfortable with it. Whether through a club or otherwise, the longer that period lasts, the stronger the feelings on both sides are likely to be, which makes a long-term relationship more likely. On the other hand, from the perspective of a man who isn’t that interested, meeting three or four times may feel like nothing but a hassle. It may not even develop into a relationship. If I’m not interested in a woman myself, my feelings can fade within a few minutes of meeting her—not even after two or three dates. Clubs can be very unforgiving. As Mac mentioned, I think you’ll click with men who see things the same way. One of the women I’ve been seeing through a club for many years—I believe we had four or five dinner dates before things progressed. I liked her that much, so I never initiated an adult relationship and was willing to wait as long as necessary. She was probably the only woman at the club I ever felt that way about. Going on more than three dinner dates can help you determine not only how you feel, but also how strongly the man feels about you.

> Would three dinner dates be a reasonable amount of time? That basically means the asker is compatible with men who think three dinners is enough to determine whether they’re a good match. But I don’t think there are many men like that. > The next day, should I tell the Universe representative…? That thought never crossed my mind. It’s a real eye-opener. Still, I suppose it’s understandable for someone with no experience in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to think that way. The representative won’t mediate for you, so you’ll need to decline the offer yourself. I was so surprised that I ended up giving a straightforward answer for once.