Maezawa here.
So you’re a woman. Sorry, I misunderstood.
> “I’m always nervous that if I name an amount like this, I’ll be seen as an audacious woman and dropped, so it’s hard to state what I’m hoping for.”
Yes. When I interview women, about one in five—which is actually quite a lot—tell me things like, “Could you tell the man how much I’m hoping for?”
I completely understand that it’s difficult for women to bring it up themselves.
But from a man’s perspective, women like that can actually be very appealing. If you tell him, “You decide what I’m worth,” some men may think, “Where have I been all this time? What a wonderful woman.”
You might worry that saying something like that could result in an extremely low offer, but I think you should carefully assess him during the meal. If you feel that he’s trustworthy, I believe he’ll properly appreciate your value.
Of course, the amount may end up being lower than what you hoped for. In that case, you could simply look for a man whose expectations align with yours.
> If the amount negotiations fall apart after you’ve gone to the trouble of meeting, it’s a waste of time, effort, and money for both the man and the woman.
I understand what you mean. But if you consider that a waste, I feel you may not yet understand what makes dating clubs appealing.
When the price is fixed from the outset, it starts to sound more like a delivery-based adult service to me. Those services are designed to avoid wasting time, effort, and money.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that. If you feel that this process is a waste, then it’s simply more rational to choose a system without that uncertainty.
With a dating club, you meet, go on a date, feel excited wondering what kind of person they are, and think, “What if he makes a move?” or “What if he turns me down?” or “Would it be better to wait until next time?”
You can enjoy that whole process, and if you get through it successfully, you can also enjoy an adult relationship (intimate).
Of course, if things don’t work out, you may feel disappointed, but even so, I don’t think the current system is all that bad.
> If the amount can fluctuate, then that also means it could go down, right?
Your value belongs to you alone.
Someone who recognizes that value will offer the amount you’re hoping for. If they feel you’re not worth that much, there may be no follow-up after dinner.
So should everyone really be offered the same fixed amount, regardless of your individual value?
If you don’t know what class you’re in, perhaps you’re in the Standard class. But if you’re told that ¥20,000 is the going rate for Standard, should you simply accept that amount?
That doesn’t seem right to me.
Ultimately, the best approach is for you to state what you want, for the other person to state what they want, and for both of you to act without regret when your expectations align.
Wait—was my answer not much different even though I was responding to a woman?
