Regarding allowances:

I feel like there are two types of men: those who meet for a meal (two or three hours) plus a hotel, and those who say they’re busy and only meet at a hotel from the next time onward. When a meal is included, do they usually give an additional 10,000 or 20,000 yen? Or is the meal plus the adult relationship (intimate) all included in the standard allowance? What about meeting during the day, going to places like USJ or Kabuki, and then going to a hotel afterward—basically spending the whole day together? Is the allowance only for the adult relationship (intimate) that the woman requested? If the allowance for the adult relationship (intimate) is already considerably higher than what my other papas pay, I wouldn’t expect an additional amount. But is it normal to receive the same minimum amount as with other women, with no extra 10,000 or 20,000 yen? I know I should negotiate, but I’m scared that negotiating could cause things to end, make him say he’ll find someone else, or lead to him showing his true colors and verbally abusing me. If we go to a reasonably upscale restaurant costing around 10,000 yen, would it be rude to ask for an additional allowance for the meal? From the papa’s perspective, he seems to think he’s showing his appreciation by taking me somewhere that costs more than 10,000 yen instead of giving me extra money. At first, I didn’t know the going rates and just went along with things. But recently, a new papa I met added extra money as a matter of course for the meal and transportation costs. Is that normal, or is he unusually generous?