Dear Paper Airplane,

Thank you for your response. I realize this may sound harsh, but to men who want to support someone’s future or be of help, being in your 50s, not being financially independent, and having financial needs can come across as an irresponsible and overly convenient way of living. ➡ So, does joining a dating club mean that you have to be a woman—regardless of age—who is not financially independent and has financial needs? I am financially independent and am not struggling financially. I take responsibility for the way I live. However, I have repeatedly experienced persistent stalking in the past, so I asked this question because I felt that I needed someone whose identity was thoroughly verified. I have learned that, as you pointed out, some men may interpret someone in her 50s like me in that way. Thank you for pointing this out.