I’m a male member in my 40s from outside a major city.

The topic of my question is “transportation expenses.” Personally, I’ve always been firmly in favor of 10,000 yen without question, but the woman I met the other day showed up not in some out-of-place vintage style, but in a pair of beat-up sneakers. As for what happened during the date, it’s painful even to think about, so I’d appreciate it if you could read between the lines. When the mood drops right from the start, nothing good comes of it. I’d also like to be a “gentleman” who can hand over the transportation money with a good feeling, so I’d like to ask for your advice. For women who are far too casual, whose thinking is rather unconventional—or perhaps simply foolish, with no remedy in sight—I’ll regard the payment as a settlement for an unfortunate incident, pay it, and work toward ending things as soon as possible. On the other hand, I’ve started to feel that 10,000 yen may be too little for wonderful women who make the appropriate preparations and take the trouble to come properly dressed. I would appreciate it if female members could tell me the upper limit of an amount that feels “smart” and not burdensome to accept. I’d also like to hear from male members about their general approach to transportation expenses. Finally, I’d like to ask the staff to continue helping prevent unfortunate incidents. Thank you in advance.