What’s the difference between girls who can make money through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and those who can make money in the adult services industry?
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I’m not currently working in adult services, but I do work at a men’s esthetic salon, which is somewhat similar. I’m a former papa-katsu college student. I’m fairly attractive, and I had Platinum status on Universe. I also received around 30 offers.
I supported myself through papa-katsu for two years, from ages 18 to 20. I received allowances of around ¥70,000–¥150,000 for an adult relationship (intimate), and earned roughly ¥400,000–¥600,000 a month in total from several papas (male supporters).
Recently, I started working at a men’s esthetic salon, and it became extremely popular. I gained several thousand followers on social media, all my shifts are fully booked up to a month in advance, and I’m the ace at the shop. I also earn over ¥1 million a month by working just two or three days a week, so I feel that I’m much better suited to this than papa-katsu.
Papa-katsu was often very stressful for me, but at the salon I’ve been fortunate to have wonderful customers and am genuinely enjoying myself. I don’t offer kissing or any sexual services at all, and I don’t have to exchange messages with customers, so I don’t feel stressed. On social media, everyone treats me like an idol, and I’m happy when they’re thrilled just to have finally gotten a reservation with me. I never experienced anything like that with papa-katsu.
I’ve always had a straightforward, no-nonsense personality, so I can’t do romantic-style sales at all. But both customers and staff praise me, saying things like, “It’s great that you always give your best service to everyone, whether it’s their first visit or they’re a regular,” and “You’re naturally suited to working at a men’s esthetic salon.”
Honestly, I don’t understand why I became so popular at the salon when I was completely unsuccessful at papa-katsu. Not a single papa ever became deeply attached to me.
At the salon, though, I have many customers who consider me their favorite.
Why is there such a difference when both jobs involve dealing with men?
> You’ve always had a pretty no-nonsense personality.
I think the answer is right there.
The reason you “often felt extremely stressed doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)” is probably that the men wanted something different from what you were looking for—you just wanted them to get off, without having to interact beyond that.
With papa-katsu, the usual dynamic is something like pseudo-romance: while you’re together, you act like a couple and build an emotional connection. They want intimacy, but they’re also looking for something beyond the physical side.
But I think the emotional aspect feels like a hassle to you. More than that, you may not even like being desired physically. Maybe that’s why escort services don’t suit you either.
With men’s esthetic services, though, since they aren’t technically adult services, men may be hoping for release, but they can’t really complain if it doesn’t happen. In that gray area, your straightforward personality—and the fact that you’ll still earnestly help them get there—may be the secret to your popularity.
If you received offers from around 30 people through Universe, you must be quite attractive, so it seems natural that someone good-looking who helps them get off would become popular.
> “No papa (male supporter) has ever fallen for me.”
With papa-katsu, I think it’s difficult to fall for someone who isn’t emotionally invested in you.
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That’s good to hear. Best of luck with your men’s esthetics work.
Since it’s a men’s esthetics salon, you’re dealing with all kinds of different customers, not just regulars. Is it really possible that they’re all nice people? How strange.
If you truly haven’t had any intense or creepy customers, then that’s great.
Hmm… or are you simply trying to say that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) was tough for you?
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You’ve always had a straightforward personality and simply can’t do the whole “romancing your customers” act.
That’s probably the reason.
With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you won’t get anywhere unless you can pretend to admire and look up to the men.
Being able to show up to work regularly and on time at a men’s esthetics salon is a talent in itself, so that kind of work was probably a better fit for you.
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Since you brought up the allowance, let me start with point one.
Why do you try to compare two different things? Their only commonality is that both involve dealing with men.
It’s only natural that a job would bring in more income than compensated dating. Allowance-based dating isn’t a job—it’s something you do on the side.
Adding this after reading Fuu’s answer:
Actually, the person I’m seeing, who has worked part-time at a men’s esthetic salon, said she quit because she couldn’t stand the creepy customers.
Oh, and of course, it’s pay-per-meeting 50. I’ve decided that whenever someone brings up the amount of the allowance, I’ll bring up the pay-per-meeting 50 arrangement.
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You’re asking whether you’re suited for it, right?
> You don’t have to kiss, provide any sexual services, or even exchange messages.
You don’t have to drink either, have a conversation (though you can if you want to), make eye contact, walk, travel, go anywhere, or do anything at all. In some cases, you don’t even have to give massages—you just have to be there.
Once you become popular, you practically don’t have to do anything.
There are so many things you don’t have to do. That’s different from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
With papa-katsu, you also need elements like:
> romance and flirtation.
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