Does “a thoughtful, considerate, gentlemanly response” mean a response that simply tells the other person what they want to hear?

> “Apparently, it’s impossible to ask for ‘a thoughtful, considerate, gentlemanly response.’” Someone has started a topic titled that, but if they receive an answer they don’t like or one that’s harsh, they call it ungentlemanly and inconsiderate… Sorry for the harsh wording, but isn’t that incredibly selfish and childish? At school, at work, and at home, people often give strict opinions precisely because they care. On the other hand, if you don’t really care, you just say something half-hearted and move on, right? That may be easier, but in your own words, wouldn’t that be far more inconsiderate? Again, pardon my harsh language, but if you genuinely think that way, aren’t you just an idiot? > “If all you’re going to do is give a bland, inoffensive answer that avoids hurting anyone, then Q&A alone is enough.” Isn’t that exactly right? It’s useful precisely because people can exchange frank, unvarnished opinions. > “Are nagging parents who talk down to their children bad parents, while parents who only use kind words are good parents? Are bosses and senior colleagues who say harsh things bad people?” That’s absolutely spot-on. What the questioner is saying is basically this: Questioner: “I’m special! I’ll cross even when the light is red!” ↓ A reasonable person: “Stop! It’s dangerous!” ↓ Questioner: “I was abused!” Isn’t it exactly the same as that? > “We’re prepared to hurt the questioner.” Hmm. Do you people really think you’re that special? You keep creating topics personally attacking others and hurting them, don’t you? Isn’t that against the rules of a question board? You blatantly break the rules and hurt others, then criticize the club and the respondents—how can you say that with a straight face? If you’re “people who don’t need to be here,” it’s not because you haven’t paid. It’s because you’re a nuisance who refuses to follow the rules. Can’t you even understand that?