I’m new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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The other day, I received my first offer and went on a date with a man in his 50s.
After dinner, we went to a hotel, and he acted as though finishing inside without a condom was completely normal. Before I even had a chance to say anything, he finished inside me. Then he took an emergency contraceptive pill out of his bag and said, “Take this,” and handed it to me.
I was shocked by how prepared he was.
I know I should have refused him on the spot, but is unprotected sex with ejaculation inside common in papa-katsu?
I won’t be seeing this papa (male supporter) again, but I’d appreciate any advice for the future.
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Before you knew it, you let him have unprotected sex with you.
And then he even ejaculated inside you afterward, so I get the feeling you’re probably easily pressured.
In the end, you’re responsible for your own choices, and other people won’t be there to help you.
Please remember to take responsibility for protecting your own body.
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Oh wow…
He must be a really skilled papa (a male supporter).
That’s scary, though—having unprotected sex with a woman you’ve just met. Men can catch illnesses too.
That said, it’s true that men are attracted to unprotected sex regardless of their age.
Next time, make it clear from the start: “If you won’t use protection, I can’t have an adult relationship (intimate).”
Not just with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but also on dating apps, there are always men—young or old—who give in to their desires and want to have unprotected sex. Please be careful going forward.
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This is based on reports from women, so the numbers may be somewhat limited. However, I think it’s safest to assume that it could be around half, since many women probably don’t report these things.
For your own protection going forward, once you get to the hotel, you should at least say something like, “Please make sure to use a condom.”
(I’m assuming the allowance was already discussed over the meal.)
Even though dating clubs keep records of men’s addresses and other information, they’re only safer than apps or dating sites—not completely safe. Some people will still do bad things even if their address and real name are known.
So I think you should do whatever you can to protect yourself.
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I don’t think it’s something that happens often.
At least among my acquaintances and me, none of the men would do that without checking first and getting consent.
I think that man just happened to be that kind of person.
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