To the “papa-katsu gentleman”: You said, “Please be specific about what exactly was off base, for my future reference,” so I’ll venture to explain. (I’m a different woman from the one who told you that your response was off base.)

It seems to me that when you feel irritated by the content of a woman’s question, you start thinking about how to put her in her place. That’s why, in response to the question, “Isn’t four hours too long for a first meeting that’s dinner only?”, your answer became provocative and seemed intended to mock her: “Then why not go to Yoshinoya instead of having a course meal at a high-end restaurant?” or “Why not choose Relationship Type D?” (This woman only said that four hours was too long. She didn’t say she wanted the meal to last anywhere from zero to 30 minutes, and even a full-course meal wouldn’t take four hours. Since she apparently wants dinner only for the first meeting, Type D would be completely beside the point.) I see the same tendency in your responses to other questions as well. This is a Q&A site, so people are looking for answers to their questions—not counterarguments or attempts to “win” the debate.