I was the one who asked why transportation costs for the first meeting are included in the allowance.

Thank you all for your answers. Joe, Thank you for explaining your reasons. I wasn’t angry. Maybe my wording came across as harsh. I asked here because I thought that on a Q&A site, people would answer calmly without getting angry. > Perhaps the main reason is that they want to keep the allowance low. So you mean the allowance I offer might be an amount that puts too much strain on that person. If that’s the case, I wish they would just say so, though I suppose there may be various reasons behind it. I also think it’s important to be open-minded. I’ll keep working on that. Dateyume, Sometimes the transportation costs are given all together at the end, while other times I receive them as soon as we sit down, followed by the additional amount later. The timing varies, but the wording about transportation costs has disappeared from the rules visible to women, and even before that, it had been changed from a rule to a request. So I don’t think reporting someone or reminding them is appropriate. Kazu, I’m sorry for asking a question that could invite people to pick a fight. I’m sure you would answer calmly, but some people make snide remarks or shout. I don’t feel it’s worth enduring that stress or putting myself in the public eye for around 10,000 yen. And, as Fuu pointed out, I also feel it would be a shame to eliminate the possibility of continuing the relationship, so I can’t ask the people themselves. That’s why I asked here, hoping for straightforward answers. Dai, Thank you for explaining your reasons. It was helpful. > If the allowance is 50,000 yen for the second meeting, wouldn’t you feel dissatisfied if it were reduced? Personally, since it would be the amount we agreed on, I wouldn’t see it as a reduction or have any reason to be dissatisfied. But I suppose there are women who feel differently. > By the way, I gave the allowance once recently according to the pattern above, but I didn’t receive any particular thanks. Perhaps she thought it was simply expected, but it seems to me that a man’s response may also depend on how the woman reacts in situations like that. Do you mean ordinary thanks weren’t enough? Sorry to keep asking, but what kind of reaction would make you feel that giving the allowance was worthwhile, Dai? If you don’t mind, I’d appreciate hearing your thoughts. Seattle, Thank you for explaining your reasons. So your approach is to consider the total amount for the day. That’s helpful to know. I appreciate it when this is clearly stated during the negotiation. Fuu, > It’s a matter of sacrificing a little now for greater gains later. > Either you make an issue of the transportation costs for one meeting and part ways, > or you continue seeing each other. > Even if it’s only implicit, continuing for a year would bring the total allowance to a fairly substantial amount. I have enough common sense to understand that much, so of course I’m not going to say it to the people themselves. I wanted to know the reason, not hear a sarcastic remark, so I’m disappointed. Early, > If the transportation costs weren’t given upfront this time, or if he offered them only after the adult relationship, I wouldn’t consider such a papa very gentlemanly. It happens even when they do give them upfront, so the most confusing situation is when they say, “Here’s the additional amount,” after the adult relationship. But men are also rated on Universe, and if many women feel the same way, such behavior will naturally be weeded out. If not, I suppose I’m in the minority. It was also helpful to hear why you give the allowance and transportation costs separately. Thank you.